How do you handle jealousy in your relationship?

Jealousy is a sign of "insecurity" over something that is already "yours". Envy is wishing something that belongs to another was yours. If the person you are dating/married to is a very attractive person then you can't expect other people not to notice she/he is attractive also.It's like getting a job at a great company and learning afterwards other people are still emailing and faxing their resumes.

Are you going to get upset with the company? Neither you nor your mate has any control over other people. The attention is unsolicited/uninvited.

A polite rejection usually works. Therefore it really makes no sense to be jealous of something that is "yours". It's irrational!

Lets face it if you have anything that's "worthwhile" other people are going to want it too! In order to keep "your job" you have to continue to do your best work. A jealous person is looking for a lazy way out.

They want to "relax" or feel secure in the knowledge they don't have to continue to give their best and their mate will not wander. However if you are not performing well at your job you are likely to be fired. The same holds true in your relationship.

You provide your own "job security" by always doing your best. What makes people angry is they want their mate to be rude to everyone but them.In some instances they may want them to only dress nice when they are around, find ways to avoid attention, or turn down their inner light/personality. Everyone is looking for someone who will love and accept them for who they are.

If a person has to "change" in order for their mate to be "happy" then they are wrong for each other. However if you or your mate are flirting, using sexual innuendo with (other people), or making less time to be with each other then it's not a "jealousy issue" but a "betrayal issue". If someone is not "acting like they love and appreciate us" we should assume that they don't and move on.

Actions speak louder than words!

I've never been the jealous type. My attitude throughout my marriage has been that jealousy is a waste of energy. I cannot make my husband love me and stay with me--he has to choose to do it.

And if he were to want someone else--I wouldn't want him.

Currently not in a relationship, but if she were jealous I would dump her. I'm not jealous. I didn't even understand what jealousy was till I read "The Brothers Karamozov."

If you don't trust her, why be with her? If she doesn't trust you, why be with her?

You self-cogitate the reason why you're jealous first. You then rationalize if a corrective measure is obtainable to have the article the jealousy is generating. If that is unattainable, then a rationable measure is made to reduce the jealousy by replacing the article with a like item or an improved item will eliminate the jealousy.

Normally, after self-cognitation, the jealousy is revealed not worth the time to be invidious at all First of all, jealousy is only an ugly monster, which you can defeat with no doubt. Think of reasons of why you are jealous, but NEVER wish horrible things for the person you are jealous of. Always pray for them, and also yourself, and hopefully, after that your jealousy battle will be defeated.

I give equal attention to my kids... But, sometimes you see that look of jealousy on their faces.... Asked by ~Nutty~ 56 months ago Similar questions: handle jealousy household Lifestyle > Relationships.

By being fair to all I also do everything for everyone - if I give a hug, I give one to each child. They get treats at the same time, or help at the same time. I punish them the same (obviously I don't punish them at the same time if they all didn't do something wrong lol)When they do get jealous, like on birthdays, I remind them that they will get the same treatment on their birthday.

I make sure no one is singled out, and they know that everything one gets the other will too. We haven't had any real jealousy issues, and they're all best buds (most of the time :) Sources: My knowledge .

My sons are completely different. My oldest never needed or even wanted the amount of attention his brother wanted and needed.Do you give them attention completely separate from each other? Like taking one somewhere and leaving the other with your spouse or babysitter?

I found that when I take one to dinner or a movie and then the other, they are much happier. I don't know how old your kids are, so that might not be a realistic option right now. My youngest would sometimes get jealous when I would spend time with the oldest.

For a long time I was able to do it while the youngest napped, but that stopped years ago. If it is just a look, then ignore it, but if the "jealous" child says something or tries to interrupt the time with the other then maybe explain to him or her that it's about taking turns with you. Hope that makes sense!

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It'll take a LONG time before they get over it. Sibling rivalry is built into their little systems. My husband's daughters are 19 and 22 and they're still bickering about who's better at what, who's got a better looking boyfriend, stealing each other's make-up and whatever.

We've always treated them as equal as possible as well (while allowing for differences in their tastes and personalities. ) I guess my advice would be not to accomodate the one who's getting jealous by offering more. They need to learn to appreciate what they have and to not be jealous of their sibling.

Just a short answer of "You and your brother have the same amount. " or similar should do it. I don't fight with the kids, I just say what I say and that's it.

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