How long is too long to wait for marriage? When does suggesting marriage become pushing?

After 20 years marriage really won't change anything for your 'relationship'. You two obviously love each other and really thats what marriage is all about. The only thing that I would be concerned with regarding marriage is your property rights.

If there were an accident and one of you left this planet, not being married can make ownership of all your assets more complicated. So propose it to him that way. You want to get married to protect your assets and your futures.

Africans do not believe if you move over to your lover's apartment you are not entirely unmarried.

You have a child together it is not unreasonable to push the idea of marriage I counsel you to boldly push the proposal for the sake of the child it will make him secure, not for the piece of paper you will receive in court but for the emotional stability of your children.

No time is too long, immediately the feelings come go for it!

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