How many women regret losing their virginity to the person with whom they were with?

To a point, I regret it. I wish I had stayed a virgin until I was married. I made it right in my own heart and with God and became born again.

I know not many people like to hear that I want to save sex for marriage but even if I did not believe in God, I would still want too. It's something special, and I didn't realize how special it was until I lost it. I was only a young girl and I didn't know better... I made a mistake that I wish I can change.

Sex is not something "You just DO", it is emotional,passionate, spiritual energy surging threw two body's. Two flesh, two spirit, two energies become one. I don't think it's meant for anything other then love.

If you don't love someone, like deeply love them, you shouldn't have sex with them. Not many guys like me for this reason because sex is more important to me then most.

You could read my Hub on 'Losing Your Virginity' to see how much I regretted who I lost mine to, and why. I hope it provides a great life-learning lesson to any youngsters deciding on who they want to give their virginity to. hubpages.com/hub/Losing-Your-Virginity.

It was unthinkable and would mean one thing: ruination for a girl, no matter who the guy was. Since guys didn't have to measure up to the same standard of conduct, it made for different kinds of rules all around, the main one being to WAIT for marriage and be clever enough to keep the status quo in the meantime. The only way out if a girl did lose it (and most likely get pregnant since there were no birth control pills or any other options for a girl to have the choice in the matter) - would be to force him to marry the girl or for her to live in shame with various other poor results.

Not a good basis for a good marriage for a couple or life for a single girl! It's too bad that the pendulum has now swung so far to the other extreme, but there seems to be hope that it may moderate at a more livable and equitable less extreme place toward the center which gives everyone a more positive experience whenever it happens. That would be good.

Many young folks act before they've thought about all they may want from life and consequences of their "easy" decisions - which may not be so easy after all. Emotions are crushed, self-image dimmed - and some of the people involved become immune to the real feelings of others.

I'd say in most cases because that man happened to break the heart of the woman who trusted and loved him. Losing one's virginity is a small thing compared to the pain of a broken heart.

I don't regret my choice at all. I waited longer than seemed "cool" to everyone I knew. I was nearly 21 and I am proud to say that the only man I have ever been with is now my husband.

We have been together for almost 7 years and have recently gotten married. I know girls who were having babies in 9th grade and that was not something I wanted. I think it is important that we empower young women so they know it is a choice that they can hold off on making.

I don't. I was young and it felt right at the time.

I was with a guy who I trusted and who respected me. I was madly in love. I knew there was a chance that we might not end up together and I made my peace with that before we did it.It all worked out for the best though.

Been together nearly 7 years and are happily married. No regrets here.

You can't change what has happened, but you can learn the lesson and save yourself more heartache in the future and you can also speak to the young people in your life, in the hope that they will listen and have a better experience than you did.

I for one regret, I should have charge it to the higher bidder, well, that is the new theme now, bidder off your virginity to the highest bidder..

I think you are all wonderful for answering this question and only hope that regret is too strong a word for all of you. We all make mistakes in life. I don't think losing your virginity should be looked upon as a mistake in and of itself.

If you regret you didn't pick a better guy, well that's another story. That being said, think of the valuable lesson it taught you about thinking things through.

At the time, I really thought the guy I was with loved me and cared about me and we did, in fact, stay together for over four years off and on but mostly on. It did however end on unhappy terms and sometimes I wish I had had the knowledge and experience I have now to see that I deserved better and should have saved myself. So to summarize, yes I do regret it.

If only I had really known the guy I gave myself to. I think I felt like I needed some male approval and unfortunately he was more than willing to take advantage of that. But I did learn some valuable lessons about being in a relationship and there were some good times.So I don't regret everything.

I just think I should have waited on sex.

Well I would say most do. Usually its your first "serious" boyfriend and usually it doesn't last very long. Except you marry that person which, lets be honest here, is only a minor percentage :) So I would assume about 80/90% regret it - because you were a teenager and didn't know that the guy would do anything to get into your pants :).

In my view, there's really no point in regretting it. It isn't like you can go back and change time--what's done is done, now all that you have to decide is how you want to move on with your life.

I do. I lost my virginity very early in life, to someone I didn't love then and never did. While I don't regret losing my virginity before marriage, I do regret being with someone I didn't love and before I was mature enough to understand sex.

I think the WHO you end up with is much more important than the one you started with, especially if he/she makes you happy.

The Godly women or God fearing women are in the majority as to those that regret loosing it to a person other than their husband. Some other don't give it a damn, they don't mind whoever they loose it to.

Well, I don't want to sound awful, but I learned some things from my first lover that my second boyfriend wouldn't have taught me or appreciated. Maybe that sounds crude. But life is full of experiences and you can't regret one.

Just be smarter the next time. I am presently single, but don't think I would want to be a virgin.... Sorry if that is unpopular. I am certainly not "loose".

Don't we all.... I was so young and naive, I think young girls need to be careful these young boys have been around the block a few times and know how to manipulate and emotionally make someone very vulnerable. We all remember our first and I think a lot of us would go back and at least changed the way we reacted when our world came crashing down around us. Am I think only one who feels this way?

No regrets, we're still together and I did it for the right reasons with the right person. Even If we don't end up together in the future I'll know he was the best thing that's ever happened to me and I would never change that.

My first was with my first boyfriend...with whom I later married. I was no child mind you, however, I was quite young. I do not like to regret choices that I have made, however, there are those that sneak in.

He was one of them. Lessons are learned and with my first person, well, maybe he was not the best choice. Sad to say, we are no longer together but better off.

Regret is something you are able to mentally overcome. Love and let go, take from it and turn it into something positive.

Being a born again Christian I can't say I've always made thebest choices in the past but regret is not a good form of getting on with your life. We all make choices that we learn from and that is that.

I used to. I did it for the wrong reason and with the wrong person. It's been so many years that I don't care now because I married the right person.

I do and I don't. Kindof complicated. I really, really, really (extreme emphasis on really) don't like him anymore.

I was young, completely in love and dumb. I thought he loved me to (since he said he did) but when I got pregnant, he "ran for the hills" so to speak. But on the other hand he is the "birth father" to the little boy I placed for adoption, who has been one of the greatest blessings in my life.

I was doing alot of other dumb stuff besides having sex, and if I hadn't gotten pregnant I would've ended up worse off (if not dead). I really wish I hadn't done it when I did and who I did it with, but I don't know if my life would have turned out as good as it is if I hadn't.

I think all of the woman would regret losing their virginity for the men who cheated them in the relationship.

REGRET IT! Wish I had waited and had a bit more expirience and had it been with someone speciel. I guess when youre young you're not mentally equiped to make these decisions.

I think almost every girl/woman regrets it--basically when they did it at a young age. I believe this because you never stay with the person you lost it to when you were 15-16 and then when you do meet that person you truly love and marry, then you will wish you saved it for them. It would have made it that much more special--BUT you may have learned from your mistakes, which would have also made you a different person.So you can regret it, but you may not be the awesome person you are today if you waited and went a different route with your life.

I don't know any women who regret losing their virginity, thankfully. Unfortunately there are horror stories but it's rare people gossip about people who were in love and happy.

I am thinking that REGRET might be too strong of a word for me on this one. I would definitely say that I was a bit disappointed in my younger self. In retrospect, he was probably a better guy than the one I chose to bear a child with.

:( Que sera sera.

I think it's sad as a society we mostly think in terms of a woman "losing her virginity" while simultaneously thinking that when a guy has sex for the first time, he "becomes a man. " Why do women lose something when men gain? There's a lot of pressure from all sorts of places in society for a person to have sex and then not to have sex, especially for women.

I'm sure there are a lot of women who regret "losing their virginity," but we can also give it, too. Those who think in terms of "giving" their virginity mostly seem to be in the group who don't regret it at all or at least not as much as those who say they "lost it.

Ii3rittles Great reply and voted up. That's why I always ask my all girl friends ... whether they want to do it ... I do not want that they would regret for that later on. I also regret that I lost virginity to someone whom I did not love.

That was a need and lust for that moment only ... @ mistyhorizon2003 Thanks for the link ... going to your hubpage.

I think there is no point about worrying about the past.

I clicked on this question only because I was curious to read the answers. It's crazy how many women regret losing their virginity. It's funny because if you asked men, the answers would be the total opposite.

I have yet to regret it, of course I am still with the guy I lost it too. I think the problem now a day is that people are losing it at extremely young ages. You need to be in love.

No thanks I do not miss the heartaches for real.

Many do....bt some don't if she is already engaged.

Losing virginity to sweet person is a good memory ... losing to a nasty person will make you regret....i think that person will not stay inside you forever just because you lost virginity to him as you forget with time and see better human beings..

I definitely don't regret it. I was 15, and he was 14, but we were really in love. I really wanted to, and he was a really awesome guy.

The story that I'm writing on here, "Somebody to Shove," is all about how I lost my virginity. There's a really good book that I'd recommend reading called The Purity Myth.

I don't regret losing my virginity to the person I was with, I thought I loved him at the time. I was 19 years old and he was 21.

I think if they lsot their virginity to a man whom tehy loved that wouldn't have made them to regret.

A lot ..in my country(Ghana) you may not regret if only you are lawfully wedded to him.

I still remember the moment and forever thank him in my heart for his tenderness.

Not much women I suppose considering the high rate of sexual activities and seductions in the world today. I am a virgin and i'll wait till am married, I suppose there is no harm in that.

I'm one of them. It was the biggest mistake I have ever done. I hope my children doesn't do the same.

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