How to ask personnel for feedback without being intrusive for info:what disqualifies me, what changes to better qualify, if bad references?

Okay so you have a few different issues here. I'm going to make suggestions on them separately. References - Did you just write down references or did you call the people you put down first and ask them if they would be willing to be a reference?

When I'm applying for a job, I call anyone I plan to use as a reference and talk to make sure I feel like they're comfortable in giving me a reference. If you did that, it's not likely a reference problem. If not, call the people you put down as references and ask if its okay if you use them as a reference.

If they say no, then they probably gave you a bad reference. After a rejection notice - If you've received a rejection notice, there is no point in sending a thank you note. It just wastes your time and the other persons.

If you want to know why you were rejected, there are two ways to go about it and it's possible neither will work. Call your contact and politely ask if they could tell you why you were rejected. Be aware that whatever they say is probably not the whole reason, but it might give you an indication.

If you found out about the job through a recruiter / headhunter, ask if the recruiter can find out for you. They are often more successful because the person talking doesn't feel like they will directly hurt your feelings. Depending on when the rejection is coming, you can begin to gauge the problem.

If you're rejected before you have an interview, you have a problem with your resume. Make sure your resume uses specific, achievement oriented bullets - for example, "Produced $500 million in sales in 2010, an increase of 25% over the previous year" instead of "Increased sales in 2010. " If you're rejected after the interview, then it's something about either your qualifications that isn't evident in your resume or your interviewing skills or your personal hygeine or presentation.

Ask some friends or family to check your interview outfit. Make sure you're wearing a decent quality, clean suit to the interview and that you don't go to the interview wearing any perfume or cologne or too much jewelry or a crazy shirt or tie. You want to look neat and conservative with no strange tatoos or piercings visible.

Also make sure you don't have a crazy hairdo. I know an amazing guy who had a really difficult time getting a job because he had long hair (waist length). He finally got his hair cut and got 2 job offers almost immediately after.

Make sure you're not fidgeting in your chair, that you're not shaking your arm or head because your collar or sleeve isn't fitting right or anything else odd. Also make sure that you've thought through specific times when you faced difficult work challenges or had really good results that would be appropriate to highlight how your job skills match with the job you're interviewing for. The hot new thing is "behavioral interviewing" where the interviewer asks you to talk about a time when... "Tell me about a time when you had to work with a difficult person."

You want your answers to be politically correct, don't bash anyone or blame anyone for anything, and don't get worked up about any questions. For example, when I was interviewing for my job I was asked "Tell me about a time when you had to give someone bad news. " I first joked that in accounting policy, it was rare to ever give someone good news and then recounted a time when I was working for an airline and had to convince the CFO that he really WANTED to do the right accounting because of what the results would look like if he did it his way instead.

I used more specifics - but you get the idea. Even if interviewers don't formulate questions like that - try to use specific examples from your experience.

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