Huge huge family dilemma? I cant take it, need advice!?

Your question is really hard to help you with because there is lots of unknown information here. Why do you think you Dad May be hurt if you have a relationship with your sister? You state, "my "step-mom" left without notice back to Canada and took my sister with", have you never discussed this with your father?

What's the reason for her leaving? After this many years have gone by there should be no reason why this can not be talked about. Your Dad has remarried so my guess is he's probably over with any issues he may have had about the past relationship.

Also you state," ex-step-mom asked me to never mention anything to my dad about me knowing anything about them". Have you ever asked why she doesn't want you talking with your father about this? If it were me I would certainly want to know why, especially after this amount of time has lapsed.

In my opinion I think it's time you and Dad sit down and talk about this whole thing. It seems odd that there is all the secretes. Tell your Dad how you feel about getting to Know your little sister and how important it is to you.

Just be prepared , because there may be things you just don't want to find out. Examples could be, but I'm NOT saying they are, Maybe she is really not your biological sister. Maybe almost step-mom and dad were in a abusive relationship and don't want you to know.

Like I said none of these maybe an issue just want you to be prepared to hear something you may not want to . If your Dad will not talk with you about this maybe your Mom could shed a little light on what the past situation was. At any rate I don't feel you should do anything behind your parents back.

If Dad doesn't want you to go on a vacation with them, (definitely something you shouldn't do with out permission) don;t do it. You can always keep in touch with your sister in other ways, telephone, email, letters, ect....... When your 18 years old you can rethink what you want to do, but for now I would follow along with how your Dad feels about that type of visit. If he wouldn't want you to go on a trip with them maybe he would be o.k.

With a visit at your home. Talk with your Father, maybe this won't be so confusing and at least you won't need to feel guilty because your not doing anything behind his back. Good Luck.

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I think you should ask your dad for the full story, get his perspective and let him know of your intentions and desire to get in contact with your sister. If your dad does not consent then as a for respect for him then maybe you should consider waiting until you are not a minor. Communication is they key!

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