I have asked about my husband before. But maybe some more info would help me get some better answers.?

Some marriages work out, and some don't. Yours evidently hasn't. I would commend you for gathering the courage and strength for going through with a divorce.

Another way you could look at it is if you get out of a marriage beyond repair at an early stage, there is a stronger possibility that you could meet someone else and remarry (if that's what you want). If you wait until you're 40, you may not get another chance. A good rule of thumb is think about any decision before making it, do what's right for you, and to hell with what everyone else thinks is good or bad.

You are the one who will have to live with the outcome; not them.

Divorce is never a good thing, it isn't easy and never should be taken lightly. People get hurt and families are forever changed. Abuse can't go unchecked and leaving the person for a time and then going back will not make them change.

The only one who can change is the person who wants to be different. Counseling can help, abusive persons need to recognize the need to change. It can be discussed as a family with parents and friends.

Just living in different houses will not change the content, this will only ignore the problem. Shedding light on abuse is not easy, family, friends and the abuser will deny it. Sometimes they are the people who are enabling the behavior.

Just moving away will not change the person, if they will not get help and family can't be supportive more has to be done.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.