I love a girl but she loves my best friend and even my best friend knows that I am in love with her so what should I do?
If this girl loves your best friend, then the girl has made her choice. There is nothing that you can do to change her mind, so do not embarass yourself by trying to change her mind. Accept that she is not for you.
Move on and get to know some other girls. If your best friend loves this girl, too, then they will probably be together. I think you should accept this.
Have a nice talk with your best friend and give the two of them your blessing. Explain though that it is too painful for you to hang out with them when they are together, so you would like it if your best friend made some time to hang out just with you sometimes.
The question is missing a huge consideration. How does your best friend feel about her? WARNING TOUGH LOVE AHEAD If your best friend loves her, it is time to let her go.
This may be difficult to hear, but I do not think you love her. Love is something that comes from mutual feelings. You may like her, you may care for her, but if she does not feel the same about you, this isn't love.
If you care about her you want what is best for her, and though this may be tough to hear, you may not be what is best for her. If your best friend does not love her, he needs to tell her. You can be there for her after that, but if you try to romance her as she is dealing with that pain it will damage your relationship.
Give it time, be friends if it changes to something more so be it.
A typical love-triangle. Anyway, here is my short and sweet answer. If your best friend loves her too, then forget her.
If the girl loves your best friend, then too, forget her (it is better to be loved than to love somebody). If you still think you can manage, express yourself to her frankly (I don't think you did this). Don't be late.
All the best. Thanks.
I would first say wait. The situation will probably change over time. Either her feelings for your friend will change, or his for her, or perhaps yours for her.
I actually don't see anything wrong with having a talk with her at some point. You decide how long you want to wait. You may want to wait until she is no longer in love with your friend, if that ever happens.At some point I think you would want to tell her (unless her and your friend get engaged and married).
Sit down and maybe take her hands across the table and tell her, " I've been wanting to tell you that I'm in love with you. I don't know if you feel at all that way about me, or if you ever will, but I didn't want to go through life without telling you that". Might it be embarrassing?
Shore enough might. Have most of us been through it ourselves? You bet we have, on both sides.
It's all a part of getting where you're going, relationshipwise. I find it better to err on the side of telling than of keeping it to yourself.
One is to accept how your friend feels and simply continue to be her friend. Sometimes a long-term solid friendship is the best relationship to have. My grandmother had several friends like that.
They began as friends as little girls and stayed friends for 80 years. You can continue to love your friend, but keep it platonic. Appreciate her great qualities, enjoy her companionship, but steer clear of desire.
Often women are better at this than men are because somehow we are often better able to supress sexual feelings and we are better able to have good platonic relationships. The other is to accept how your friend feels, and then remove temptation to keep trying to create a one-sided relationship by easing out of her life. You can and will go on to make other friends in your life, some of whom may want to "go there" so that the relationship is desireable by both partners.
A good way to do this would be wait until there is an honest reason to become geographically distant, such as taking a terrific new job in another city. The advantage to you of the first choice is that, of course, you will still be in contact with your best friend. And it may be faintly possible she will change her mind some day and decide she does love you in the way that you want.
The disadvantage is that you will have to show restraint, something many Americans have a hard time doing. The advantage of the second option is that physical separation can help greatly in practicing restraint. On the otherhand, you will lose your best friend.
If your friend doesn't want to have a sexual relationship with you you can't force it. She has been honest and trusting enough to tell you that she does love you but doesn't want the same kind of relationship you want. However, she could be willing to be a shoulder to cry on as well as a wonderful companion as you try to find a willing soul mate.
I would first say wait. The situation will probably change over time. Either her feelings for your friend will change, or his for her, or perhaps yours for her.
I actually don't see anything wrong with having a talk with her at some point. You decide how long you want to wait. You may want to wait until she is no longer in love with your friend, if that ever happens.
At some point I think you would want to tell her (unless her and your friend get engaged and married). Sit down and maybe take her hands across the table and tell her, " I've been wanting to tell you that I'm in love with you. I don't know if you feel at all that way about me, or if you ever will, but I didn't want to go through life without telling you that".
Might it be embarrassing? Shore enough might. Have most of us been through it ourselves?
You bet we have, on both sides. It's all a part of getting where you're going, relationshipwise. I find it better to err on the side of telling than of keeping it to yourself.
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