I overhead my husband saying inappropriate things to our daughter, what should I do?

Hun what your marriage has been through is an extremely difficult thing to overcome, but it can be done if your husband displays true remorse. Without remorse there will be no change and without remorse there can never e reconciliation. Before making a decision on working things out you need to consider some factors here.

First of all, something happened to break the bond of closness between you and your husband. You both need to look at this clearly and with honestly. Anyman who had good will towards his wife in the beginning does not all of a sudden get up and move out to be with another woman unless there were problems that drove him away.

This does not say you were the cause, it says whatever problems there were whether his fault or yours it eventually took its toll on the marriage and your husband felt the need to stray, to disconnect. If your husband has any morals you can bet he struggled with his concience over this decision. What you did by allowing him to continue to see you was made it easier for him not to make a decision on recommitting to the marriage.

In other words, you were allowing him to have it both ways. Hun, if you truly want him to come back to the marriage and I mean his body, mind and heart and soul coming back with a full intention to recommit to you then you need to stop allowing him to have it both ways. Otherwise you are sending him mixed messages and are not providing incentive for him to make a decision.

You sway back and forth from not taking it and then contacting him to see him. You need to set strict boundaries and live by them no matter what. Your actions should relay the message "I will not tolerate sharing you with another female".

Until you do this and he shows true remorse you simply cannot take him back expecting to pick up where you left off. He has learned to disrespect you for the weakness you have shown him and so he sees no fear of continueing with this other woman. Even if he claims it is now over with this other woman you need to not put yourself in jeopardy by taking him back until things are woked on first and this will take a long time.

You need to aloow patience and your pride guide you through this or you will find yourself in the same situation after a while. Good luck hun, I know it cannot be easy but if you have any dignity and pride left then you need to do the difficult to guard your heart and self respect. Good luck to you!

I know its hard to bear but if you want an honest answer you know what you need to do without asking advice. It isnt like he made a mistake in a moment of weakness and cheated on you, the man developped feelings and a relationship with another woman for quite a while. Each day for months he chose her over you, thats not a moment of weakness.

You want a husband who wouldnt dream of spending his life with anyone but you. You want to be abke to do the same and we all know you will never feel that way about him again no matter how much you love him because for the rest of your lives you will wonder if he will evereave you or cheat on you again. What kind of marriage is that?

Youre doing better without him, so stay without him! Don't go back to him because youre lonely because theres thousands of men who would be perfect for you who would keep you company and treat you better than your husband has.

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