I want to adopt another baby 9 years after my first one. my daughter wants a sibling desperately. hubby is sceptical?

I want to adopt another baby 9 years after my first one. My daughter wants a sibling desperately. Hubby is sceptical.

Asked by cccg 11 months ago Similar questions: adopt baby years daughter sibling desperately hubby sceptical Family > Parenting.

Similar questions: adopt baby years daughter sibling desperately hubby sceptical.

If hubby is skeptical...don't do it, you both have to be fully on board. Don't risk your marriage, just to appease your daughter .

We adopted when our youngest was 12 yrs old, the youngest of four children. I was hesitant to adopt bc I didn't think that I would love an adopted child as much as I loved my own. And I didn't want any more children: I was busy with teenagers.My husband had been pushing to adopt for 3 years.

I reluctantly agreed and now our 3 adopted children have changed our lives in ways we would never have expected. The older four are "parents" so each of the 3 younger children have 6 parents. We have been blessed WAY beyond imagining.

An Added benefit, none of our older children (up to age 28) have been in a hurry to have children bc they understand the responsibility and difficulty of raising children. I pushed to adopt from China, against the advice of the rest of the family, and now this little girl has become the light of our lives. Spunky, smart, independant, and so grateful for her mommy.

Beware of adopting an older child. Our little Chinese princess was 3 when we got her. I struggled with attachment disorder for 2 years, tantrums, screaming, biting, hitting, pulling hair, waking many times every night, and I thought it would be the end of me.

I thought I had destroyed my family. No one wanted to be at home. That is how much she needed us.

We stuck it out and I can't imagine not having her now. It makes me very sad to see her little flat head where no one picked her up as a baby. She so desperately needed a mommy.

But be aware of what you are getting into and realize that they have always been rejected. Your job is to love them no matter what.It isn't easy.

This is a very important decision, and it's important that Husband gets to air his side. Is a third person arbitrator a possibility? A professional of some sort, not a relative.It's important that all sides can present their concerns to an impartial ear.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you all.

You daughter is old enough to help with a baby...but there are also older kids to adopt. All kids need a family to call home. It is nice if you can help.

Don't go back to school instead or work part time you are talking about an 18 year plus college financial support obligation. Your husband deserves some pleasure in life.

My husband daughter & Myself would like him to adopt her she is 12 & we have been together for 8 years.

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