If you saw your friends' mate out with another person playing kissy face would you tell your friend? Face the mate or just ignore it?

I am going to tell a story to answer this question. I had a very good friend who I was very fond of and cared about deeply. She met and started dating what seemed like this really awesome guy.As her friend I was very happy for her, I had just gotten married and I wanted the same happiness for her.

I was out with my children shopping for fashionable clothes hangers for my new home, when I turned around and saw my friends mate kissing another person very passionately in the store. I was very angry and wanted to scream at him in the store, but being a lady, I did not. I went home and as a friend I called her on the phone and told her what I had seen, and she told me thanks and hung up.

Three days later she called and told me that she didn't want anything to do with me anymore because he told her I am just trying to break them up because I want him, she even made it a point to call my new husband and tell him this (no problem there, he was with me when it happened). My husband who is very smart, saw him several days later at the market, with yet another girl.So instead of waiting he called her on the phone and told her to come down, he needed to ask her some questions about whether I was after her boyfriend, and she ran right down to break up my marriage because she needed to prove that her boyfriend would not do that to her, so it had to be me doing something wrong. Then once she got there, my husband took her right up to the guy, while he was passionately making out with this girl.

She was hurt and angry, and she found out that he was a liar, but she could never find it in her heart to call and apologize for what she said, or running right down to try to destroy my marriage because she needed to blame me so she would not blame him. We also were never friends again and have not talked to each other in all these years. Before you get into it with her, I would not call her or do any of that until you can get her into the same room and confront him, or you can take a picture of it, or call her down and show her.

Because love is blind and she will only see you trying to break them up. Trust me.

I have had numerous men and women friends. Yes, love can be blind. I too have lost friendships for being honest for accidentally witnessing a significant other, spouse, etc.Passionately smooching with someone else.

There is no good approach to informing a friend, no matter how good or long-term the friend is. This is a darned if you tell and darned if you do not.It can go either direction. Most of my men and women friends who have had the honor of being in a relationship with a cheater, did ask honest me to get lost after informing them of the cheating encounter.

As a well intentioned friend, I have telephoned, visited in person, and gone out of my way to be the "good friend" who ratted. There were also times when I did the opposite since good friend type of informing can backfire and cost one a friendship. Both of these measures cost me friendships.

Friends grow severely upset when you do not tell, more than when you inform them. Either way, friends find out what you know or do not. The truth has a habit of escaping right into a friend’s ear.

Since either way is costly in friendships, I opt for honesty.It is the best policy. A true friend will believe you have their best interests at heart due to the longevity and quality of your friendship with them. These true friends usually return to your life once they get rid of the cad who has been lying to them.

I even had a few (very few) apologize to me for their earlier negative reaction upon being informed. There were times in my life as the affronted spouse or great friend of spouse when I decided to be brave and confront the cheating spouse while kissing another. Cheaters do not appreciate being caught, but once they are, it invalidates their lies for the public is witnessing.

I was very cordial but made certain the entire place could hear my words by speaking slightly above conversation level like an actor on stage would. I kept my cool and made it clear to all present I had caught the cheater in action. The cheating person knew who else was with me, made a point of that to make certain he or she knew were busted.

I did tell their spouse as immediate as I was able; made a point of including who else was with me in the conversation so there would be no doubt my friend could confirm with another or others; know the where it occurred, the time it did and who was present. Of course, no one wants to believe their spouse is cheating, but I found this method worked for best. It did not cost me as many friends as the other alternatives.

If one has the ability to take a picture and prove the cheating encouner to the affronted friend that is a good idea. Sharing the picture can help your friend end a very bad relationship. Unless the friend takes the stand that the picture was doctored.

Sadly, I never had a cell phone or camera with me at the unexpected cheating viewing moment. There were times when I wish I had. Pictures are more truthful than a cheater.

I think this depends on the strength of your friendship. I don't have a lot of girlfriends, so the ones I do have have been my friends for at least 3 years and we have a lot of trust and emotional intimacy. I think I would act depending on whether or not my friendship with this particular friend pre-dated the boyfriend.

If she's been dating the boyfriend longer than she's been friends with me, my word might carry less weight and I would opt to say something to the boyfriend instead. Let him know that I know and that I have an eye on him so he better straighten up and fly right. If we have been friends longer than she has been dating this cheater, well, I'd go straight to her.It depends on the strength of your relationship with your friend.

That being said, if your friend is unwilling to believe you on such an important matter an actually believes you'd be willing to lie to her about something so hurtful, well, she's not a very good friend in the first place, then, is she?

I would definitly tell my friend because if she finds out that her boyfriend was cheating on her and found out that you knew the whole time she will get mad at you and might not want be friends anymore. Or she won't find out and you tell her and she might or might not believe you but at least you are being a good friend.

I would tell the cheater to leave my friend alone and ask my friend if she's using condoms before I would say what I saw. The messenger always gets shot.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.