If you sent someone a "friend request", would you be offended if they asked you why you want to be friends?

I mean if they sent a message asking why before accepting or declining the request. Is that offensive? Asked by Rickisgirl 50 months ago Similar questions: friend request offended asked friends Amazon > Askville.

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Absolutely not! There are people on any social network who "collect" friends. If you look at their myspace page they have 20,194 friends.

Personally, I think it's impossible for anyone to "know" that many people. Chances are they just want to know: - Are you actually interested in getting to know them as a person, or did you just randomly click "add friend"? - What attracted you to them... did they give a good answer, do you have something in common, etc.? - Why should they take the time out of their day to acknowledge you?

- What's the next step? If you didn't take the time to message them/email them and suddenly you have a friend request, what are they supposed to do about it? Is it up to them to message you or are you going to message them?

There aren't many rules for these newer social situations and a lot of people don't want to be left feeling like they have an obligation but don't know what it is. Personally I never approve a friend unless it's someone I personally know or they took the time to message me first.In fact, for example, my myspace page says, "no adds without message first" and people STILL randomly send add requests. No note.

No nothing. If they can't take three seconds to send a message, "hey, we're both in the same town and I noticed we had so and so in common. Wanna chat?

" then why should I waste my time? I think it's perfectly acceptable to ask and that the person doing the asking for the add should be the one that needs to answer the question. I don't even find it offensive if someone simply declines with no explanation.

They don't owe you anything..

Nope, not offended Someone actually did that with me. I just responded to the request for an explanation with half humor and half honesty. I thought it was funny.

A bit strange, maybe. But generally funny. And if it was someone who I'd clashed with a lot on the discussions (but enjoyed clashing with) I would almost expect it.

Kind of like, "But we clash all the time! " "Yes, but I enjoy it because we clash intelligently and have nice debates. " "Oh, okay...click."

And that click could be a "she's crazy, I'll ignore her" or a "yes, let's be friends". So, not offensive, maybe strange, maybe fitting.

No There should be no offense taken as the person is trying to determine the requester's motives for being friends. In the Internet/Cyber age people are more careful about internet friends/buddies. I know I would want to know why someone would be my friend - even if the answer is that the requester and I have the same literary interests or movie opinions.

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Hmmm.... I think it would depend on the tone of the note. I know some people taking 'befriending' very seriously, and don't "accept" just anyone who walks around dancing and wearing a bee suit! They might be afraid of getting stung!

LOL! But really, some do take it very seriously, and I guess it's not really out of line for them to ask. I think it would make me re-think my invitation, though...friendship, even on Askville, should be a two way street, and if each party questions it, it's probably not meant to be.

I wouldn't take it personally, though, as not all things are meant to be. Perhaps the proposed friend doesn't understand the Askville friend "system", and is actually wonder what obligation they have if they accept being your friend? I wouldn't assume that they are being negative or mean, they might not understand how it all works and are asking for that reason.

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I never heard of that one before! The only reason I could think of is maybe that person was surprised because they thought you both have different points of view on things and did not know why you wanted to be a friend. Asking why does not seem very nice.

Another view could be that the person is new and does not understand the concept of having askville friends and asked why. I think my feelings would have been hurt too..

" "I've forgotten how to send a friend request!

I was wondering when you go to forward a question to Askville friends from your friend list.

My daughter has asked me to pose a question to all of my friends here on Askville...

I've forgotten how to send a friend request!

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