If you were being held hostage would you want your spouse to sacrifice themselves for you?

I am not yet married, but I am soon to be. I imagine that as I would be willing to sacrifice myself to save him, so to would be he for me. Would I want this to happen if I were in actual peril?

Of course not. Under such a circumstance I would be the unfortunate one closest to the danger, and therefore, should be the one to absorb the ultimate and unfortunate outcome. My hope under such a scenario would be to have at least one last opportunity to be able to leave him a message so that the inevitable feelings of guilt that he would feel are soothed.To reassure him posthumously that I love him and that I was certain that he loved me too; to let him know that our love was secure in my heart until the end and beyond.

There is nothing that would convince me that my life is worth more than theirs. I would never ask them to make that sacrifice, nor would I want to live without them. What good would being freed to me, to only be miserable and wallow in my own depression?

This may sound unrealistically brave, but I believe I would react with their safety before my own. I perceive my instincts to be ensure their safety first. An enormous reason why I love them is because of what they offer, and what potential they have to do so many marvelous things.

I value my families well being over my own life.

Oh no way would I want my spouse to sacrifice his own life for mine. I think before he could even have a chance to think about this horrendous possibility, I would offer my own life in exchange for his. Maybe that is somewhat selfish on my part, not wanting to have to be faced with his potential death for the sake of my life, but if it came down to one of us having to give their life to save that of the other, I would step up and offer mine.

Of course thinking about the scenario, he would very likely not let me follow through with this idea and we would have to come up with an alternative solution, such as secretly putting our heads together while the hostage takers are otherwise distracted and plotting out a plan on how to overcome the perpetrators together.

I don't think so. I wouldn't want to live with the guilt or the loss. Of course, if they were willing to sacrifice themselves, they are thinking the exact same thing!

So I guess it could sort of be a mercy to let them. However, if I had the ability, I would make them protect themselves, as it was my bad fortune to end up in that situation, not theirs. And it's always possible that even if they sacrificed themselves, it would be for nothing.

Hostage situations are pretty unpredictable.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.