If you were in a custody battle with your spouse would you ever consider kidnapping your children?

If their lives were in danger, yes. Otherwise, no. A parent who kidnaps their kids is in a terrible legal situation, and trying to get custody becomes extremely difficult.

That parent is viewed as a loose canon who can't abide by the court's decisions. It only aides the other parent in looking like a victim and getting to keep the kids. If you want your kids back, you jump through the hoops, make a strong case for the judge, and do your best to show that you are a loving, capable parent, willing to do what it takes to be there for your children.

Kidnapping your children could also expose them to witnessing your arrest, which would be traumatic. If you ended up doing prison time, you would also be taking their parent away from them long-term.

Only in an extreme case where I thought they were in physical danger. I would be doing my children a disservice to not allow them to see their other parent. It's not their fault that we were not able to make it work.As much as I may not like them, the kids have a right to see their parent.

It's not fair to them. I've been involved in custody battles as the child and the parent, and neither are ideal situations. They are not property, they are not belongings, they are people, with emotions and thoughts that deserve to have a chance to make their own choice as to whether or not they have a relationship with their parent.

I am not sure about kidnapping my own children, and I would hope it would never have to come to any such desperate decision making. I would hope that my husband and I could work something out that would benefit us both, as far as the kids are concerned. I would not want to take them away from him and would hope that he would feel the same way.

I would try to come to an agreement that would allow both of us to have the kids either on alternating days of the week or one gets them in the morning/afternoon and the other in the evening. Regardless, I don’t think weekends for one parent are enough parent-child bonding time and I would never want either of us to have to be without our kids for that long. I think anything more than one day in between at a time is too much for both parents and children.

The children should not be punished because of the divorce. They still have a right to have both parents to themselves every day (or at least every other day). It is usually when kids are away from parents for days or weeks at a time that they grow resentful of one or the other parent and their relationship with the distant parent suffers.

They may even perceive their time away as being due to that parent being at fault for the breakup and being a bad influence to be around. This could result in the child looking at the distant parent as the “bad” one and in the end they may not even want to be around him/her. There are certainly some nasty custody battles and in many cases (where one partner tries to keep the children away from the other) I can almost understand why some parents resort to kidnapping.

But it does not make it right and it certainly does not compensate for coming to a reasonable agreement in advance. Plus, it is a federal crime to kidnap your children, so you would only be jeopardizing your own future with your children.

I wouldn't have to the kids would be with me already. Trust me!

I don't have any kids, but if I did I know for sure I would protect them from anyone, their father included, who meant them harm. If this meant facing criminal charges in order to get them away from someone abusive, you bet I would "kidnap" them. All kidnapping is, is taking children across state lines against a legal guardian's consent.

If that legal guardian is dangerous to the children, I believe it is a parent's moral and ethical responsibility to become a kidnapper and get the children safely away to the care of someone who will be good to them while the kidnapper does his or her jail time for the kidnapping.

Only in an extreme case where I thought they were in physical danger. I would be doing my children a disservice to not allow them to see their other parent. It's not their fault that we were not able to make it work.

As much as I may not like them, the kids have a right to see their parent. It's not fair to them. I've been involved in custody battles as the child and the parent, and neither are ideal situations.

They are not property, they are not belongings, they are people, with emotions and thoughts that deserve to have a chance to make their own choice as to whether or not they have a relationship with their parent.

I am not sure about kidnapping my own children, and I would hope it would never have to come to any such desperate decision making. I would hope that my husband and I could work something out that would benefit us both, as far as the kids are concerned. I would not want to take them away from him and would hope that he would feel the same way.

I would try to come to an agreement that would allow both of us to have the kids either on alternating days of the week or one gets them in the morning/afternoon and the other in the evening. Regardless, I don’t think weekends for one parent are enough parent-child bonding time and I would never want either of us to have to be without our kids for that long. I think anything more than one day in between at a time is too much for both parents and children.

The children should not be punished because of the divorce. They still have a right to have both parents to themselves every day (or at least every other day). It is usually when kids are away from parents for days or weeks at a time that they grow resentful of one or the other parent and their relationship with the distant parent suffers.

They may even perceive their time away as being due to that parent being at fault for the breakup and being a bad influence to be around. This could result in the child looking at the distant parent as the “bad” one and in the end they may not even want to be around him/her. There are certainly some nasty custody battles and in many cases (where one partner tries to keep the children away from the other) I can almost understand why some parents resort to kidnapping.

But it does not make it right and it certainly does not compensate for coming to a reasonable agreement in advance. Plus, it is a federal crime to kidnap your children, so you would only be jeopardizing your own future with your children.

As a child of divorce, and a divorced parent myself, dealing with the issues of custody are some of the hardest we face. It's extremely hard to remain neutral, and we all think we know what is best for our children. And unfortunately there are times that we act on our most desperate emotions and not with best interests in mind.

I can honestly say that kidnapping my child had indeed crossed my mind. In the moments when you feel you may lose them, you'll consider any option to keep them in your life. While this is probably a common thought for parents in this situation, it is most certainly NOT a good idea.It is not only illegal, but it would also be traumatic for the child.

The stress that divorce and custody places on children is immense, and this action would only intensify their anxiety. While going through a custody battle, children are already nervous and unsure.To take them from the places or people they know, by uprooting them, you are not only causing them undue stress and hurt, but you are also teaching them to run away from their problems. Teach them instead to stand up and fight for what they believe.

Whenever possible, you really should try to determine what is in your child's best interest. Why not try to come to an agreement amongst the two of you. Many states allow parents to sit with a mediator and work out a suitable agreement, rather than charging into battle.

Ask yourself these questions.Is the other parent a threat to them? Are you fearful they may cause harm? Can they provide a safe environment for them, when they are in the other parents custody?

Even though you don't want to live with, or love the other parent, doesn't mean your children feel the same. Is it fair to pull them away from their mother or father? Your children deserve the opportunity to have both parents in their lives, and to enjoy the love of both.

The only reason I can see that it would be acceptable for a parent to kidnap their child, is if the other parent posed an immediate threat of abuse or harm. Then you have the right to protect your child at all costs. My advice is to involve the authorities.

You can not do your child any good, from behind bars. Take immediate action, and team up with police and social services to ensure your child is safe.

I'm nervous to say it, but yes, I would. My first husband was physically and emotionally abusive, and at one point, when in an attempt to quit paying child support, he threatened to sue for custody, I considered it. If I thought he had any chance of getting it ( they were 4 and 6) I would have taken them and ran.

I know it would have been wrong, but it would have been more wrong to allow them to be injured. Fortunately his girlfriend at the time didn't want kids, so it was moot.

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