If you were tempted to be unfaithful in your marriage, even though you did not act on your temptation, would you tell your spouse?

No. There are many things we don't tell our spouse, not because our relationship is somehow flawed and dishonest, but because they don't need to know every little thought in our heads, especially when it would hurt them. If you're having a bad day, and on that particular day, they're annoying you, you don't stop to tell them exactly how irritating they are, and start listing their faults.

You know you're going to calm down and get over it, so you shut your mouth and go for a walk. I actually had an ex tell me one day that he had been tempted to cheat. Believe me, his honesty did not bring us closer together.It just left me feeling insecure and upset, and all he did was demonstrate was a selfish ass he is.

We're often tempted, especially in long relationships. It's in everyone's best interests to shut up about it. Now, if the conversation you actually need to have is something along the lines of "hey, I've been tempted to stray lately, and I think that means we need to work on our relationship so we can get back on track and nothing happens," then that may need to be a very hard talk that you have.

Have the talk if something needs to change in order to save your relationship. But, if you just mean to say "I saw some really hot guy/girl that was totally in to me, but I decided to stay with lowly old you anyway! I deserve a pat on the back" then you're just being a jerk.

If I were tempted at a certain point in my marriage but did not act on that temptation, I'd rather not tell my spouse about it because he might misunderstood this and hurt him. There are things that are better left unsaid and this case is one of those things. I don't see any sense of telling him this because nothing happened.

And besides, what is important is the present and future, the past is already something that happened and is no longer relevant to our present relationship. I don't want to say something irrelevant and senseless that might create taint in our present relationship.

Most of the time I would say yeah tell them, cause open and honest communication is very important in a relationship BUT in this case heck no why start trouble. The spouse may think you want to act upon it and will begin to fear it.

Most likely not, since no wrongful action is involved. Providing information that might be hurtful or cause worry to a spouse just for the sake of honesty isn't particularly useful, in my opinion. It's not as if people don't realize there are temptations in the world and that it might cross any of our minds at some point.

If we were having problems within the marriage, my focus would be on resolving those specific problems and not on bringing up every other thought in my head or every emotion I ever have. The more comfort and joy we can bring to each other in a world full of negativity, war, crime, hatred and other terrible things, the better off we are. Everyone experiences temptations for a variety of things over time, and I think most of it just isn't significant enough to bring up at all.

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If it is just a temporary chemical situation and it will pass quickly, then no, I will not tell my partner. But if I think in the future I will act on the temptation, I better discuss it with my partner. Maybe we can solve this together.

Depends also on why and how I got tempted. Was it because I have problems with my partner and I am looking into the wrong solution or simply just because of the physical attraction. If it is because I have problem with my partner and I am looking "solution" or a "runaway" from my problems, then I am going to discuss the problem with my partner and telling him/her that our problems had lead me to this temptation.

For example, if the problem is because my partner is too busy working and not giving enough time to me especially to have an intimate relationship, I will get the temptation to find the physical release somewhere else. If this is the case, then I should discuss why with my partner why he become so busy and starting to drifting apart from me, tell him how I feel, and maybe find a solution for us. For example a nice vacation to a romantic hotel just for the two of us to build and regain the passion in us again.

And if I am telling my partner about my thought, I will apologize and I assure him that I will not act on my temptaion.

Of course not! That will be very foolish! How would you feel if your spouse told you the same thing?

Could you ever let go of it? I am certain most people would feel very insecure and angry at their spouse even though your spouse chooses to remain faithful to you. For me, it'd be like saying, "hey, look, you aren't adequate for me.

That's why I'm soooo tempted but I don't do it, aren't I great? " Human ego is a fragile thing. That is why we tell someone she looks good in that dress although, well, not really, why we don't like to be corrected for our faults, and why some things are better be left in the privacy of our own mind.

Of course! Why would anyone be with someone they couldn't tell everything to? My wife and I share every detail, every secret and enjoy every moment of it together.

We often stay up way past our bedtime just talking. Our minds are capable of imagining everything from quantum physics to psychedelic works of art and everything in between. That our minds are also capable of imagining perfect sexual encounters rarely equates to anything really happening.

Most of the time the actual act never lives up to the fantasy anyway. One of the perfect things about a long term partner is that every encounter together gets you closer and closer to perfection. Practice makes perfect, right?

My wife knows that I have an active imagination, she loves it. Imagining something doesn't equate infidelity in our family. She also knows how many years I spent searching for fulfillment from others before she became my wife.

I think if a woman came along that could even come close to getting my attention sexually (and away from her) she'd bow to her and applaud. But my wife knows that I chose her and no other, that's why she does (and can) trust me. But I realize I'm not like most men.

There's no jealousy in our lives. We have complete trust and faith in each other. I've spent years as a massage therapist and recent years as a photographer.

Never has there been any confusion in myself or my clients about what is happening and it's always professional. I'm surrounded by beautiful women almost every day and the only one of them that has my attention sexually in real life is my wife. I'm happier for it and a success in my profession.

Telling him I was tempted would simply be a way to hurt him. Fleeting thoughts occur, they do not all have to be acted on or repeated.

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