If your grown child were trying to kill you and the only way to save yourself was to kill them, would you?

You cannot outgrow ADHD. However, with time and maturity, a child can get better at handling the behaviours. Many kids with ADHD are wonderful to be around.

I took child psychology for one of my electives this past spring before I graduated and as you can imagine, ADHD was a topic that was discussed several times. As it was explained to me both in my child psych class and in a parenting book I've been reading (Parenting With Power Struggles by Susan Stiffelmen) children with ADHD or ADD just think and process information differently. They have a different thought process and they learn in a different way.

This does not mean that they cannot learn to sit still or focus on a task. It means that the approach to learning must be different. The teacher (and I'm using the term teacher broadly, could apply to a parent too) must find ways to engage the child.

It sounds like a lack of discipline may also be causing problems for this child in particular. You may want to discuss this with Phil, especially if you feel that it is best not to take on a disciplinary role with the children. Why exactly does Phil object to his son being tested for ADHD?

Is it because he doesn't want him to be put on medication? If that's the case I can certainly understand that. It is my opinion that most children do not need those types of medications.

Behavioral therapy could be equally as beneficial without the side effects (did you know some ADHD meds can stunt a child's growth?).

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