If your significant other seems to be popular with the opposite sex, how do you deal with the jealousy?

I actually had this experience 6 or 7 years ago. My husband is quite good looking and he looks younger than his age that most of the times girls thought that he is single just by looking at him. It was not an easy thing to handle at that time.

We were just married for 5 years and have a 4-year old daughter. My husband has been open to me about it and has been open to me about some of his female co-workers who are flirting with him. I don't know if that was a good idea but the "green-eyed" monster never gave me peace of mind.

But I never told my husband that I am jealous and never showed it to him. I trust my husband because I know that he loves me but I was really jealous at that time. I was a full-time mom so I think that made it even worse because I have to stay at home and have plenty of time to think about it.It really made me think and reflect why I was feeling that way and how to handle it.

It was a long process but I think I was able to successfully overcame it. What I did was evaluate myself, I look in front of the mirror and I notice that I am heavier compared before.So, I vowed to myself that I will start losing weight. I watched my diet and do some abdominal exercises to keep my stomach flat.

I also prayed a lot especially if I don't like the thoughts that is running through my mind. I asked for God's help to help me banish those thoughts that are not good. I also asked God to help my husband not to be tempted by other women.

I reached my goal and my ideal weight. I look trim as ever and one thing that made me realize. That I was not jealous anymore.

The jealousy must have stem from the fact that I was insecure because I don't feel as confident before as I am now. And one of the reason that I am not confident is because I have gained weight. I don't feel good at myself.

That was really an eye-opener to me. Since I don't have any reason really to be jealous because my husband has been a loving husband ever since we got married. And he noticed that I lose weight and told me how that I look great!

Well, my self-esteem really was all-time high at that time. I learned an important lesson there, that once I became a mother I never should have forgotten to become a wife. That I have to take care of myself to look my best not only for my husband but for myself too so that I will not feel insecure and finally get rid of the green-eyed monster called jealousy.

Now we are in our 14 years of marriage and I never have trouble dealing with jealousy anymore.As long as I feel secure with my husband's love and feel good about myself then having other women admire my husband is fine with me and make me even proud to have such a good looking husband!

It's hard, I'll say that... my husband in particular has this beautiful long blond hair and women like to touch it.. it drives me literally insane. He gets hit on constantly and is very oblivious to it. At first I got angry a lot.. I even made some rather unkind comments to many of the women.

Then I talked to my husband and tried to get him to become more aware of it.. basically it bothered me less if he shot them down.. brutally. Lol When he doesn't notice though it makes me feel better to think about it in a proud way, he's a good looking man ,he's loyal to me as sin and loves me. He would never betray me and has proves it every time a woman flirts with him and he ignores her.

I'd say the best way to deal with it is change your perspective.

I dealt with this one about three years ago with my boyfriend (had been dating 4 months at that time). I dealt with it badly and broke it off for a while. Then I realized that if I became friends with his female friends it would be better.

We got back together and it was hard getting used to his female friends but I dealt with it and discovered some are very nice. In my marriage a friendship between my ex husband and one of his female friends became way to close and they had an affair. Therefore, this was a concern of mine when I noticed my boyfriend getting to close to one in particular last fall.My boyfriend and this girl talked daily, and when he was not on the phone I was hearing about her, ya know her clothes, her comments and he even pretended to copy her way of walking and talking.

To me this signaled he was watching her way to close and I tried to talk with him. He blew me off saying I had nothing to worry about cuz they were just friends.My boyfriend did not realize I seen how he smiled when he talked of her, yet I was being yelled at etc. It made me feel so bad that I cried, but I never said anything about this to him. I would not call the things I felt regarding this situation jealousy but some people did.

The first few years of a relationship are usually the hardest in terms of jealousy. You haven't yet had a chance to prove trustworthy in those types of situations. Even thought you were married with trust, it's our nature to trust more once it's tested.

Jealousy in the face of insecurity can be a wound in the relationship. You must deal with you insecurities first, your jealousy second. In the case of a matured relationship, there should be less reason to believe that it's more than harmless flirting.

I am very affectionate with my friends, and my spouse knows that. But at first it was nerve racking, because there was never a precedent. As relationships mature, they either grow stronger or they begin to grow complacent.In the case of the latter, jealousy can creep back in, because there is usually a failing in communication and displays of affection are all but lost.

I am truly lucky to have found someone that I trust implicitly. Of course there are still times when I feel a bit of jealousy, but it's usually so inconsequential, I laugh it off and interject with a bit of humor. I usually walk up, and pretending we'd never met before say " How about coming home with me?

" My spouse laughs, and the other person just stares in awe when we walk off together.

There is a clear cut way. . Since I believe in improving myself and not in pulling someone down by his/her leg when it comes to jealousy, I would myself try to be popular with the opposite sex.

I think it is the most constructive way to deal with it. Opinions differ, however. Thanks.

I believe it is the obligation of the person who is getting attention to make it clear that they are spoken for. They don't need to be rude about it, but if they know they're being flirted with, they should make sure to stand with their partner, show their partner affection, or at least tell the other person about their partner. No one has the right to stroke their ego at the expense of their spouse.As the significant other of a desirable person, you should get to feel proud that they're with you, not feel ignored because they're having so much fun feeling desirable.

If your partner is willing to be respectful about the situation, and make it clear that he is not accepting or even considering other offers, I think that mitigates the jealousy. Personally, I know my jealously only arises when I'm with someone who encourages all of the attention. That is just plain disrespectful.

You don't act like you're single when you're not. Period.

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