If your spouse had a problem with how many hours you worked and wanted you to choose between work and them, what would you do?

My personal list of priorities 1) Family 2) Work 3) Friends I would make every effort to try to keep my job and reduce my hours. Yet if I am the primary income I may suggest that my spouse works more so that we may more easily be able to afford it if I take a cut in pay.

I have to agree with cheapgamer. One of the reason I left the career track I was on was the thought of spending endless hours toiling for someone else where they expected my family to come second and my job would be first. This is unacceptable to me now that I have a child.

I think two working adults (like my husband and I before we had a kid) can carve out time for each other in a variety of ways if they wanted to. Add kids to the mix and suddenly there is a whole new level of issues to deal with. Now I do have to say, given the above situation, I would want to know if the spouse was potentially jealous of the money situation.

For example, some men do cannot handle a wife that makes more money and might want her to cut back for that. On the other hand, there are many female work widows as well whose husband's spend inordinate amounts of time at work and forget about the family. Whichever spouse is the primary salary needs to balance that role with family time.

After all, family is the whole reason that person works as long and as hard as he or she does. Someone else posted not long ago something I thought was great. You don't find many people on their death bed who wish they would have worked more.

How many people though regret the time lost with family just to make a dollar? So to answer the question, I would really evaluate the time I was spending at work versus my time with the family. I would make changes that would allow more time with the URL1 may mean cutting back a bit at work, but I think it's a small price to pay.

Oh honey, I'm so glad you're going to earn more money so that I can work less! I'm exhausted by all of these long hours, and you taking more of the responsibility for our finances is a huge relief! " If we could downgrade our lifestyle a little, I would reduce my hours, but I would not put my family into poverty so that he can feel like he gets more attention.

I grew up with a mom who didn't have enough time for me, and I know directly how that can impact a kid. I would have preferred more attention to more money any day. On the other hand, there were times when the mortgage was barely paid.

I'm glad that we had a stable place to live, enough food, and enough clothing. Parents sometimes have to make some hard choices, and love doesn't put food on the table. It's also a matter of quality time, not quantity time.

Turn off the frickin' TV and see how it instantly seems that you spend more time together. Eat at the dinner table. A little bit goes a long way.

It depends on your finacial situation and if your willing to make that lifestyle cut. I believe if your working for someone ekse you should not kill yourself to make them rich. If you are working for yourself trying to build a business that you can pass on through the generations then this is for the children.

Have some patience as nothing worth while is found on your doorstep but only throgh hard work-unless you hit the lotto.

If you love your spouse I would suggest that you get to the root of the issue. Does your spouse think that you are really working or do they suspect you of being unfaithful. Also, when you are with your spouse are you spending quality time with them?

They could simply feel unappreciated and unloved by you and are using your long hours at work as a way to broach the subject. You should not have to make the choice because you need to provide for your family, especially in this economy it is important to keep a handle on your finances and cutting hours may not be realistic for you at this time. However, you can improve your relationship by having better communication with your spouse.

Ask them what it is that you can do to work on your relationship, it could be more phone calls during the day, a date night each week or just a half hour of uninteruppted attention focused on them each day after work and be willing to work towards giving them what they want.

If your spouse actually gave you an ultimatum and demanded that you choose between work and them, I'd say the relationship is already over and it's a lose-lose situation. That being said, as long as they were being reasonable, it makes sense to investigate what kind of compromises can be made. There might be things you can do to make them feel better about the situation without making drastic changes.

For instance, having set hours where you're not allowed to check your BlackBerry when at home could make them feel like you work less even if your hours stay the same.

Of course my family first, the reason why we are working hard is because of our family and without our family we won't have any reasons to work hard anymore. It will be lame to put our family aside because of our work.

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