If you found out that your spouse had been sleeping with another person throughout your marriage, would you forgive them or divorce them?

There are several problems here. FIRST, the statement being "tired of sex" creates a troubled picture. That is not a normal response in a marriage.It's an issue that needs to be addressed.

It could be a vital clue to an existing health or emotional problem. It definitely is a matter for serious discussion with the family doctor. Moving on to the rest of this scenerio: Yes, I would forgive my spouse - and then I would divorce my spouse!

To be in a successful relationship, a marriage must contain trust, love, and affection. You might get by without sex if physically unable but you still NEED the affection. Seems if a spouse can easily "seek and find" that it may occur more and more.

Spousal sex and affection should be provided on the homefront. If that's not possible and a sincere effort has been made by both parties, then move on! Each parties needs must be met.

The best friend would no longer be a mutual best friend. That just doesn't get it. Some things are meant to be shared, this ISN'T one of them.

Looking to the future, where would a relationship be when both parties enter the "golden years" or in the case of sickness? Something to think about.

Well we would deff. Have to sit down and talk about the problem, I would more than likely forgive them because marriage is a big commitment that you don't just wanna throw away. But you both should talk about what you want and or need in the relationship, even though you have became no wanting to be sexual with your spouse, you should try doing it sometimes for your significant other.

But I do not think that it is right for your spouse to sleep with another woman just because you will nto give it up to them, they could atleast pleasure there selfs. Hope this helps.

There's no such thing as tired of sex, I believe it is loss of emotonal attachment and this couple needs counseling. If you drove a person to another for lack of affection then this is partly your fault but maybe he should have reached out at home first to solve this problem. This person cannot be considered your best friend if they are sleeping with your husband, maybe just his.As for the question of forgive or divorce this is such a personal decision for each individual that this is something you need to decide even if you have to work it out through your own counseling.

You've been ther 30 years there must be something.

I agree that there could be health issues. Being tired of sex for a woman could mean hormonal imbalances or many other medical conditions. I would first suggest going to a doctor for a thorough work up when the problem first arose.

If everything checked out then I would suggest couple's counseling. I don't think that gives the spouse permission to cheat. That is a violation of the vows that you took together.

If they truly loved you they would stand by you and try to figure out the problem with you instead of skirting around.

Charray7, First of all, one does not get tired of "having sex". It just is not humane. If their are sex struggles in a relationship, that usually means that there are other issues going on.

This could be in the relationship as a whole or maybe an individual issue going on. When you are married, you take vows under oath and those vows should not be taken lightly. However, this is not grounds for cheating.

There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to cheating in a marriage unless it is continious. This does not mean that you forgive him and that what he is doing is ok. It surely is not!

What this means is this, how much do you love him and how much does he love you? Can you get over what he has done and can he stop what he is doing? Can this marriage survive marriage counseling and turn over a new leaf?

If you can both commit to making these changes and start a new path, there is hope. BUT, he has to be faithful and you have to forgive. Maybe not forget, but forgive.

A marriage can not survive cheating if the other partner cannot let it go. With that being said, if this is not something you can get over, which is rightfully so, then this may be grounds for divorce. It all lies within the couple.

How much strength is there to get through this and how much you both can make changes and stick to them. Men and women are different and have different needs. You have to accept this as does he.

If your relationship is strong enough to pass this, then go to marriage counseling right away and work on a new start. I have been a relationship coach for a long time now and do many sessions a week. People can and do change.It will depend on you and him.

There are many marriages that have survived cheating and many who have not. I myself am in the most happiest and healthiest relationship ever and my fiance made a terrible drunk mistake. We got through it.

It was not easy, but for us, it was the right thing to do. You need to know your husband.Is he a cheater or is he struggling and the relationship needs help? You can make a mistake once and never do it again.

I could also do a session with you guys to help you. I would do a session with you and then one with him to hear both sides and then we could do one together. As for you, if you are "tired of sex" there is something deeper.

What is going on in your life right now? Any deaths or losts of loved ones? Are you insecure about something?

Has something happened? Are you not happy with your sex life and don't know how to tell him? There has to be deeper issues and you will have to get to the bottom of those before you can fix what is going on right now.

Let me know if you need some assistance with this! Good luck to you! Ann.

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