Is it right/fair for a mother to ask her 32 yr old live in daughter to clean up?

I know exactly where you are coming from. I really didn't think I'd be alive as long as I am right now honestly and had no interest in it earlier in my life either. To sum it up, I started having seizures when I was about 12 and after having about 3-5 a week had brain surgery at age 15.

It was my left temporal lobe if that means anything. I started having them again and was on meds that made me super drowsy and boring too. I would fall asleep depressed and crying and hating my life so much at the time.

The funny part is (and this may sound like bragging) is that I was known for being very attractive, but had no dates. The meds made me so dead and boring and really could't have friends and no one could really hang out with me too long being so out-of-touch both with the meds and the surgery effects and the seizures which screw you up. I just figured I"d be dead by 30 anyway with the way things were going and just didn't care about my life.

I drank a lot cause.. well.. who care. I hated everything and everyone and was severely depressed. I absolutely hated life.

Things change. While it does still effect my life today- things can totally change. Little by little everyone has some problems.

Also, I spent A LOT of time in the hospital and saw very many people of every age that had it worse than I did. In fact, when I had my brain surgery in Cleveland there were 5 of us in the special section of the hospital. Guess what.. Im the only one alive.

Hang it there; it doesn't stay this way. It goes up and down, but it gets better.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.