Is it unwise to have one of your sister-in-laws as a close and personal confidant?

I think anybody can be a good confidant including your sister-in-law at that especially if you are comfortable being open to her. You are the one who can can tell best on who you are comfortable opening up your feelings with. A good confidant does not limit us to friends only.

I understand why you came up with the question. It is not easy to show your vulnerable side to another person for you will never know if that person is not going to betray your trust. But if you know your sister-in-law long enough that she has gained your trust and you feel you feel she can be trusted and it is easy for you to share your thoughts with her then you find a good confidant in her.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being close with your sister in laws. They're a part of the family once they marry and should be treated as such. The only thing that could go wrong is if the marriage doesn't work out or ends badly and then hopefully, your brother and family won't hold it against you if you continue to be friends with the sister in law.

But to hold back because of what might or might not happen isn't healthy. Dear friends and confidants don't come into our lives everyday, it's nice to have that relationship, no matter who it is.

That is wonderful! Sometimes you have to take chances in life, and one of those is that your best-best good friend is going to turn on you. You're going to have to dive in and take a risk.

And hopefully you're confident enough in your marriage that you can foresee a long-term relationship, so this is completely worth it! I WISH I could have that kind of relationship with any of my in-laws. They're too bat-crap insane.So treasure what you have.

For the rest of us.

I think it is perfectly healthy for you to get close with your sister-in-law. Like the above answer said, she is family now so there is no reason to not trust her. It's great that you are gradually letting the relationship build in its own time.

I hope you continue to learn to trust her more and more every time you talk to her. What you can do, if it'll make you feel better, is talk to your brother and make sure he is comfortable with you and his wife being so close. If he supports your relationship with her, then you can feel confident that all you are doing is confiding in a new member of the family who will most likely be around for a quite a while.

The closer you are with your in-laws, the better from what I've seen. Keep up your relationship and close the divide. She is your sister and your friend!

Embrace it because really good friends and confidants are hard to find.

I agree with the answer's here, as accepting married family as family is always a wonderful thing, however in regards to being a personal confidant I would avoid using the sister as a vent for problem's involving the brother. As a wife I admit there are times I wanna rip my husbands head off, doesn't mean I don't love him but a good rant to a friend makes me feel better. As a sister if my brother's wife had done this to me I may confuse the rant for true feeling and I would feel obligated to share what was said with my brother.

Blood is thicker than a wedding band. In that case it could cause problems. You should always share the things that bother you about your spouse with your spouse, but if they are telephoned through a family member they can become misconstrued.So long answer short, no it is not unwise to have a sister-in-law as a personal confidant, but it is unwise to use her as a personal confidant in matters regarding her brother.

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