Is sexual incompatibility a valid reason for ending a marriage?

LOLDivorces are filed due to sexual incompatibility although I personally think that sex counseling would help keep the marriage together. Dr. Laura promotes that the woman go ahead and consent to sex with her man even if she doesn't feel like it in hopes that once things get going, she will feel like it. That's assuming both partners have no physical problem with having sex.

If sex is painful or stressful for one partner, the other partner needs to be more sympathetic and respect the marriage vows which include fidelity. Honor the marriage promises to each other. Sex is only a small part of marriage.

Infidelity is never the answer. It's a broken promise.

The answer to this question is pretty individual, I would imagine. Speaking for myself only, the answer would have to be "yes. " Sex is too important, enjoyable to central to who I am as a person to ever spend my life with someone with whom I was sexually incompatible.

That being said, I would definitely do everything in my power to bridge the gap between myself and my incompatible partner if it were possible. I would be open about my desires and fantasies and make it safe for him to do the same with me. I would compromise when able and hope for the same.

I would try counseling if it would help. But I would not remain with someone for the rest of my life if our sex life was miserable. I think that we could still likely be the best of friends and respect one another, but both would ultimately be happier if we moved on to find others with whom we were more compatible.

Thankfully, I've never had to worry about it. My partner is perfect for me!

To me sex is an extension of how emotionally compatible I am with my mate. If we are on the same wave length out of the bedroom then we are in the bedroom as well. I have ended a marriage before that was incompatible in so many ways including sex.

If your spouse knows you are not fulfilled and does not care, I would move on. If your spouse knows and is trying then I would be patient. There is more than likely problems outside of the bedroom that need working on to.

With time and patience, I think this will resolve itself.

I do not believe cheating is ever an answer. I do believe that a marriage is about way more than sex. If sex is the only positive part of the marriage, it is doomed to fail before it even gets started.

Cheating harms the person you cheat with, your partner and ultimately yourself. Find other ways to enjoy your life with your partner. Life can be led without sex.

Cheating is never a solution to incompatibility. What's the point in staying married when they are not loyal to one another? They can as well stay apart and get married to someone else whom they are compatible with.

Trust is the basic foundation of married life. If a couple loves each other, they would never cheat on their spouse. They should consult a doctor if either of them face any troubles with respect to lack or quality of sex life.

I can't think of anyone who would not have a problem with their spouse cheating on them.

If everything else in the marriage really is fine, then no...but that would also mean that avenues of communication are open, and that both sides will work on a solution because that's part of a good marriage. I do believe that anyone who wants to cheat should leave first...the damage that cheating does to all people involved can't be undone. I know that I personally would not end a marriage because of the lack of sex...I was never sexually satisfied with my ex-husband (I'm an Aries...I'm told we're tough to keep up with), but it wasn't enough reason in and of itself to end the marriage even though there were plenty of other problems.

I am deeply in love with my husband, but know that though we are both very satisfied sexually right now there is a good chance that sometime in the future I won't be -- he's 27 years older than me -- and when the time comes he's already informed me that he won't feel hurt or inadequate if I opt for certain battery-powered options to find that satisfaction. That said, I would choose to be celibate for the rest of my life in every way possible if that's what it took to stay in the relationship with him, because it is a good, happy relationship and worth saving. I haven't known any situations where people will specifically cite lack of sexual satisfaction as their reason for divorce.

However, I do know a couple of different people who couldn't really point to specific problems in their marriage, but there weren't kids and there wasn't really anything they wanted to hold on to, so when sex wasn't satisfying anymore there was no reason to try to hold it together.

I have a hard time believing "everything else in the marriage is going fine". Sex is a natural part of a marriage and an outward expression and display of the love that ALREADY EXISTS towards each other. Outside of medical reasons, if the love is there, the desire to please each other is there, including sex and it will follow.

When I was "not in the mood", I still felt a sense of desire to please my husband. There is genuine help in the form of counseling, videos, etc. , to spice up the bedroom for each partner that they could seek and find compatibility.As a woman, if I am not interested, there is a problem--and everything else is not going fine. Cheating?

NEVER AN OPTION.

This would depend on his and her motives and the founedation of the relashonship there is no yes or no answer there is no right or wrong answer it simply depends on the couple.

Austinstar you have a valid point about the Scorpio thing. LOL However the question was not concerning me. My old barber in California and another guy I once worked with were both in this situation.

The barber ended up having multiple affairs and the former co-worker actually turned to prostitutes. Neither one of them thought an unhappy sex life was a reason to split up their families..... hmmmI was just curious to know how many people would choose to get a divorce because of an unhappy sex life..... My guess is most people decide to cheat.

In my opinion, it should be a reason to take a serious look at the marriage. Cheating is not something that will replace that important part of your relationship with your partner. It takes a lot of effort to do that and it's kind of the stupid option.

Sex is not everything in a relationship but it is a damn important part when it's not there! So when your sex life is not there then you are going to be having problems in other areas of your relationship - assuming sex is an option in the relationship.

Tiger Woods is now going through a divorce because he got caught doing what a married person should not do. Whatever his reason might be for his behavior, the truth of the matter is he is a coward. He couldn't man up and say "I do not want to live my life with just one woman and now I am going to divorce my wife so that I can live my life the way I choose and my wife can find someone else to suit her life.

Put the vows to the side for a minute and look at the reality of a relationship. Breaking up may be part of a relationship. People don't need excuses for what they do when they are married.

They need the courage to end the marriage when they can no longer keep the contract. If sex is important to me and it is not a part of my marriage, then my wife should have the courage to divorce me so that I cant find what I am looking for without it looking like I did something wrong when I get it somewhere else. If it is broke and cant be fixed .......... it is just junk.

I think if it's awkward for a man and a woman to have sex with each other it's going to be awkward in other ways as well. Sexual incompatibility is usually a symptom of a much larger problem.

No sex is great but when you marry someone it should be over just sex its about all of your partners been and there are adult toy stores that you can find thing to try.

Greetings all - Regretfully, I know a situation just like this. The marriage was faced with 'sexual incompatibility'; sex was not the problem they had 7 children. However, the voracious appetite of one partner resulted in 'permission' to play outside of the marriage, whereupon a 2nd extended family was created.

Now, 20 years later the person is seeking a new mate; the children from both relationships are now grown and married. But the person is still ' seeking a sexually compatible partner' - and base their search on scripture - 'be not unequally yoked'! When their relationship began in the late 70's/80's - the values were different.

Now we can make mature decisions based on the Word of God' and now also there is responsible counseling (spiritual and secular). This 'authorized affair' resulted in at least 14-20 persons being affected, if not hurt by this relationship. Somehow, the family has been accepting and appears blended, on the surface.

But that doesn't mean that it should be condoned, because it is inconsistent with the Word of God. It might be time to truly take stock of one's sexual needs, how they were developed, acquired, etc and - contrast them to the Word of God. The best contemporary practice is to submit oneself to sex as God intended and not as the World has exploited.

Many have come through generation(s) where children were introduced to extreme sex and sexually exploited at early ages; so many have been traumatized, (de)sensitized and abused and accordingly act from those 'orientations'. But now that we have come to Christ, we can take authority over many things, grow and emerge - no longer must we be victim, vulnerable, captive hostage to the sexual sins imposed on us we can emerge to become whole, healthy and enjoy a sexually pleasurable and fulfilling (with or without 'joy toys') that is consistent with God's will for us in our marriage and sex lives! Personally, the Word counsels don't return to the first relationship; and I feel that the 2nd relationship might need to be honored.

I question whether a 3rd relationship should be undertaken, especially repeating the same circumstances. If your relationship is 'incompatible' work to honor and accommodate your mate. If one needs to heat up and the other cool down - look for a mutually warm temperature where you can both live, love and enjoy your lives together.

Divorce, Extra-curricular activities, the internet etc - are the worse 'solutions' - Moderation in all things and consistent with the Word of God, I believe is the best answer! Grace and Peace to All! Rsvp0700.

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