Is there any way to change a person who has a chip on their shoulder,, any suggestions?

Wow. What a lot of stuff to be thinking about! No wonder you feel upset!

It sounds like you could use someone to talk to about this, and the best choice would be a psychologist or even a psychiatrist. You had a bad time growing up, had to do things that most adults never have to deal with, and that has shaped you. But you want to break out of that mold and relax and have fun while you go to school, right?

You need someone to help you learn how to think about those things differently, unlearn some unwanted lessons and relearn the right lesson. You are to be commended for leaving a ghetto town, saving someones life, and working so hard, bravo! Sadly, most of us do NOT get kudos for overcoming things like that even though we deserve to.

People are just too wrapped up in themselves to worry about someone else. Then your ticket to freedom (college you wanted) ended up to be the ticket to Podunksville instead (your current college). Sheesh!

Bet that pulled the rug out from under you. You did well, but you are mad because you didn't get what you wanted, and you don't like it there, and you feel like you have wasted a year. Am I right so far?

So, what I would do now is write down why I feel sad, every little reason. Write down what I am afraid of. Write down what I want to happen now.

Lots of short sentences. In writing this down, you can confront your feelings better. Say them out loud (when you are completely alone): that helps exorcise them.

Then, figure ou with your 'wish' list, what you can accomplish now. This year is gone. Keep working, pass your courses.

The rest of your life starts tomorrow, and it doesn't have to be anything, good or bad. Nothing is set in stone, not ever. You can return here for your sophomore year, or transfer to another college that is closer to home and more like what you are used to, or take a semester off and work or do an externship in your chosen field, or do volunteer work...you have lots of options ahead of you.

Talking with a counsellor might help you sort out a game plan and make you feel more hopeful. One thing you might do, too, is go with your sister to her freshman orientation. Listen to it, and try to experience it again through her eyes.

It will be a little like how yours should have been, and you can get some happiness through it. I know its hard to put things aside, which is why I am suggesting counselling. A shrink could prescribe you some medication that could help stabilize your moods, which right now are swinging wildly.

Could be post traumatic stress syndrome kicking in from earlier in your life, and that is no small thing. But if you look at yourself and say, "Okay, I will give myself 10 minutes to think about this and be a soggy mess. Then I am going to stop crying and do what I have to do to pass this class, and tonight I am going out with my friends and I am going to smile three times, crack 2 jokes, and talk to a pretty girl": you can make your feelings better.

Acting a part often makes you feel the feelings even if they are not there to start with. Good luck to you, bud, you are going to be great!

Let me get this striaght. You got straight A's in high school and made the dean's list freshman year of college. You received a large scholarship to go to college.

And you have a job, joined some clubs, and made some friends. But you didn't get into the school you wanted to, you never received any recognition for helping someone, and you hadn't been able to put in as much time into acting as you had wanted. Change your expectations.

You have a lot to grateful for.

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