My 21 year old daughter wants to go to her boyfriend's parents in another state for Thanksgiving this year. What should I do?

Talk to her about it without sounding like you're trying to tell her what to do. Say something to the effect of, "I understand why you want to spend Thanksgiving with your boyfriend, but it really won't be the same here without you. " See what suggestion she offers up or what her response is.

If she doesn't budge, maybe try to schedule a family "Thanksgiving" dinner before or after the actual holiday so you can still celebrate the occasion with her. Good luck!

Let her go! Don't stress about it and support her decision. Remember, she's an adult.As a compromise, ask her to bring the boyfriend over for Christmas since they are going to his place for Thanksgiving.

It's a simple swap. And it's what I'm doing with my boyfriend this year (only the other way around). He's going home with me for Thanksgiving and I'm going home with him (all the way to the UK) for Christmas!

My parents were so excited and even a bit jealous when I told them where he's taking me and that I wouldn't be home for Christmas! :) But it's cool because I'm an adult and he and I are meeting some of each of our families over the holidays to see how we fit.It's an important part of relationship building. She'll be fine and so will yall.

The first holiday without the whole family being together (which I assume is the biggest issue for you in this matter) is the hardest.My parents have gone through it almost every year thanks to work or money issues with me. I can usually only make it home for one or the other. This year, Thanksgiving is a big deal and I need to be there, so I will.

Communicate and work out a compromise and all will be well!

Be kind and gracious. Remember everyone has parents and I feel it important to share with an open heart. Your daughter will respect you for it and so will the other URL1 makes you a better person when you can understand that there are two sides to a relationship and you are willing to do your part to make things easy for everyone.....Have a great day.

At 21, she is definitely old enough to go to the boyfriend's family for the holidays. However, if this is the first time she is doing this, it may be difficult for both of you. Looking at it from her point of view, she probably wants to be home to enjoy her traditions and rituals during the holiday, but at the same time wants to go and do something new and exciting.

She probably doesn't want you to be upset because she probably really wants to go. She can go, of course, with or without your blessings. But i'm sure she would have more fun knowing that you are not sitting at home feeling resentful or hurt about it.

This is probably the beginning of holidays not quite being the same. I would tell her to go and have a good time (unless there is some alternate reason you don't want her to go - for instance - you don't trust or like the boyfriend or think she might be in danger). Have your holidays as you would normally would.

Call her on the day of to wish her a happy thanksgiving and look forward to Christmas when everyone can be together.

I think you should let her ,since she 21 this letting her know you love her unconditional no matter what decision she makes. I think it will bring drama if you try and stop her from going or guilt trip her about. Maybe she wants try something new this holiday.

Doesn't mean there won't be another one ,or she loves you any less ,trust me there will be plenty other holidays to spend. Let go to boyfriend parents house. She be there for Christmas.

Sometimes parents love our children even when there older want spend every holiday together,but one she might get married and have divide her holidays ,but she be grateful you let her spend holiday with boyfriend parents.

If not, cut the apron strings and let her go. If you have not already met her boyfriend, I would also suggest making a point of asking him to a family dinner or holiday celebration soon. After all, she's old enough to do what she wants and if he's serious enough to take her home to meet his parents, you might want to be prepared for him to be a more permanent part of her life.

Then, you'll have to make arrangements to split the holidays with her in-laws, so you might want to practice now.

Lock her in a room =) no just kidding, with all the SEX going on now a days you can be sure sending her to her boyfriends parents house for thanks giving isnt going to help the matter. If you don't care about this then I don't see what the big deal is. I however personally think you would be doing her a favor by keeping some mystery if there is still any left =) Thanks Mike!

I think you should let her go, she is 21 and old enough to make her mind up on holiday gatherings. You will have to face this sooner or later.

Nothing. She's 21 years old for God's sake.

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