My 24-year old son is gay and my wife hates him and even disowned him?

Evan, I can't add too much to what other people have said here, but let me say this. As a gay man who didn't tell his parents until later in life, there's two reasons that you should ask him. 1) If he is gay, and he's not telling you, that's simply going to continue to poison your relationship.

How old are you going to let him get before you ask him? How many boyfriends of his are you going to miss? How comfortable are you guys going to let yourselves get with a lie?

2) I've wished every day since around 1998 that my dad would ask me if I was gay. Seriously. That's exactly how easy it is to get into this comfortable acceptance where everyone knows someone's gay but they just don't talk about it.

Again, IF he is gay, he probably wants you to ask him. Gay guys don't want to tell their dads because they love them and they don't want to risk changing the relationship with them - when you ask him, while making clear that it's totally OK with you if he is, he'll be so relieved he might cry. And if he's not gay it's not like he'll suddenly become gay because you asked.

:) What's the harm in asking? As long as you're respectful, he's old enough to understand why you might think that. To me, the most telling point is that they watch movies while in physical contact with each other.

I watch movies with my straight friends all the time, but the only people who have ever laid on me while I was watching one were gay.

There is a very good chance your son is gay, or bi. It's great that you don't care one way or the other. That you accept him, period.

Keep on letting Evan know that you love him. It would be best to let him tell you, when he's ready. Forcing the issue could have Evan clam up.

Whenever the opportunity presents itself, let him, and the rest of your family know that you have no problems with anyone being gay. Do your best to never make any disparaging remarks, or allow others to do so, especially around him. Little things like that will be heard, by him, and over time sink in.

He will realize that you are o. K, with him being gay. He may very well not be totally comfortable with himself, about being gay.

Because of that, he's not ready to tell you. The best thing you can do is tell him that you are there for him. That he can tell you anything.

That you love him. That he is important to you. Another thing you can do is talk some more with your wife.

I know my parents talked about me. They told me after I came out to them. If by chance Evan being gay is a false alarm, the two of you will be able to look back and laugh about it.

You might want to go to a PFLAG center near you. They'll be able to give you some more ideas.

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