I spent years trying to make a relationship with my mom when I had my 2 kids because I wanted them to grow up knowing their grandma. Sadly though, she chose drugs, and now she is so heavy in meth and heroin, that the last time I heard from her was when her mother was dying and she showed up at the hospital asking to borrow the car because "grandma obviously didn't need it". After finding out she wasn't getting any of the expensive jewelry (she would pawn for drug money).
She hasn't talked to anyone since. The best you can do is try. But don't go in with high expectations.
Call her once a week, and go from there. If she wants to rebuild it, she will. If she isn't ready, wait a few months and try again.
Give her time to adjust. You can't force it. But you don't have to give up.
I understand how you feel, I really do. But you can't make people do things. But I dread the day my children ask me why they don't see their grandma.
Assuming she doesn't kill herself. She is doing bad.
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