My 3 year old wakes up every night to sleep with us. She takes a tantrum if we do not let her. When should I stop this?

You should stop this when you are ready to stop it. Many parents let their children cosleep with them. If you want it to stop find ways to make your 3yr old feel safe comfy and secure in sleeping alone.

Maybe help them get back to sleep in their own bed. Or a nightlight or toy might help too provide some company.

I agree you need to take a stand in some way. No matter what it is they tantrum about, at this age your child is trying to set the rules, and you really shouldn't let them :) From experience ( not sure what the books say ..... I'm sure some answers on this question will have them ) *She needs to understand you need sleep too, so never turn on lights or do anything to suggest its more than sleep time. *When she comes into your room, pick her up and take her back.

Stay with her while she gets back into bed. She'll be fighting and pushing but say you will stay there for a bit while she settles. And tell her if she settles quickly you will rub her legs and stroke her hair to help her feel better...anything to make her know she is safe in bed.

*Sit in the room for a short time while you comfort her. Tell her you are tired and need to sleep, pretend to fall asleep and see if she notices. Tell her you are just next door, in a warm bed like her, next to spouse and dreaming like she is.... *Tell her that in the morning she can tell you want her dreams were about, you need to leave now so she can sleep and dream good things :) Make it OK to be apart for some time, some 'me' time Both parents need to do the same thing.... if you really want some alone time in bed without her coming in then what I'm suggesting might help but .... every child is different.

She could be waking up upset and not know where you are... To help with night horrors or whatever fears they have, I used to turn off the lights when everyone was awake, play little fun games in the dark, nothing scary at all unless they did that to me "Boo! " but just to teach them that when the lights went out the house was the same, just a bit darker :) favorite teddys help at times like this - talk to teddy while playing with your daughter and tell them to look after her :) since teddy stays in the room, she has to too, they watch out for each other, comfort one another :) Give it about a month or two...sigh...it can be a slow process, but sometimes a few weeks will do it Good luck! Sleep tight and don't let the bed bugs bite.

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