My baby boy is 19 months old and refuses to go to sleep without the breast. Doesn't sleep without me..not even with dad?

My baby boy is 19 months old and refuses to go to sleep without the breast. Doesn't sleep without me..not even with dad We don't have a spare room where we can accomodate his cot. SO whenever he gets up he sees me and wants to URL1 matter how long my husband rocks him or soothes him, it is in vain.

We have tried to leave him in his cot to leave him to soothe himself to sleep but its in vain. He bangs his head against the cot edge cries for hours on end. What do we do?

Asked by Deintus 35 months ago Similar questions: baby boy 19 months refuses sleep breast dad Family > Parenting.

Similar questions: baby boy 19 months refuses sleep breast dad.

You spoiled him..... now you have to fix it. Been there................ my first child was a fussy one and only would fall asleep if is was rocked. Sometimes just trying to put him to be would waking him up.... I was his hostage.My parents lived with us so I had someone scrutinizing what I did.

When my son was 8 months old he was big and holding him until he fell asleep wa You have to be firm and strong for few days only..... put him to bed and walk out. Let him cry. Stay outside of the house but send someone (not yourself) just to check all is well.

The first night he cried and screamed for almost 2 hours. I was besides myself. The second night about 1 hour and on the third night after 20 minutes he gave up.

The circle was broken.My second child was never rocked unless she did not feel well. Tired, placed in bed with a blanky and that’s it. We create these "little monsters".

You can not allow a child to dictate. You go and sleep in the sofa for few nights. Or put his crib in the living room so he does not se you all the time.

Maybe a screen (room divider) would help. You have to be tough for only a short while to solve this problem. Get yours a pacifier to be used ONLY in bed.

NEVER walking around with it. It's easier to break this habit. If he falls asleep when nursing wake him up.

Let him know that food is not to make you sleep. If you keep doing that he will know that if he is tired the pacifier will be it. Giving in to demands of a child that cannot decide for him/herself indicates that you will end up being too easy on them when they are older.Caution.

You MUST be the boss! Ask your pediatrician for suggestions or talk to other mothers facing the same situation. Good luck..

Since I am assuming you have more "rooms" in your home or apartment than the bedroom, put him in another room and shut the door. Only get up if he cries, to see if he needs a diaper chage, otherwise let him cry himself to sleep again. That way, you can get him used to a couple of things: 1) sleeping by himself 2) feeding at times during the day.

Of course, this advice works better if you have a crib that he can not get out if to keep him in one safe place. You might want to try giving him a bottle of formula at night, or breast milk if you have expressed any during the day Schelli's Recommendations Your Baby's First Year For Dummies (For Dummies (Lifestyles Paperback)) Amazon List Price: $19.99 Used from: $5.88 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 (based on 5 reviews) Baby & Toddler Meals For Dummies (For Dummies (Cooking)) Amazon List Price: $19.99 Used from: $4.50 Average Customer Rating: 4.0 out of 5 (based on 4 reviews) Baby & Toddler Sleep Solutions For Dummies (For Dummies (Health & Fitness)) Amazon List Price: $16.99 Used from: $1.20 Average Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 (based on 1 reviews) .

1 Your baby is 'addicted' to your breast--and the only way to stop an addiction is to quit, stop, never do it again. I see that you live in India, so I don't know how appropriate (in your culture) what I'm going to say next is (please forgive me if I'm way off), but, at 19 months, he isn't breast fed during the day, I'm assuming. If he is, it will be harder to stop him at night.In any case, you and your husband are in for several sleepless nights.

Your son won't hurt himself by crying as you described, and--eventually--he will fall asleep. I know that the transition nights will be awful for all 3 of you--but ignoring his demands is the only way that they will go away. Every time he cries in this way, he gets your breast.

Smart kids learn lessons through repetition. Now he needs to unlearn that lesson and--again through repetition--learn that every time he cries in this way, he gets ignored.It won't fun fun for any of you, but it will work. Within several days, you, your husband, and your son should be well rested and happy.

:-) .

Your baby is 'addicted' to your breast--and the only way to stop an addiction is to quit, stop, never do it again. I see that you live in India, so I don't know how appropriate (in your culture) what I'm going to say next is (please forgive me if I'm way off), but, at 19 months, he isn't breast fed during the day, I'm assuming. If he is, it will be harder to stop him at night.In any case, you and your husband are in for several sleepless nights.

Your son won't hurt himself by crying as you described, and--eventually--he will fall asleep. I know that the transition nights will be awful for all 3 of you--but ignoring his demands is the only way that they will go away. Every time he cries in this way, he gets your breast.

Smart kids learn lessons through repetition. Now he needs to unlearn that lesson and--again through repetition--learn that every time he cries in this way, he gets ignored.It won't fun fun for any of you, but it will work. Within several days, you, your husband, and your son should be well rested and happy.

:-).

2 remember he won't be a baby forever, so give him what he wants. Before you know it he won't want anything to do with you! Enjoy each moment!

Remember he won't be a baby forever, so give him what he wants. Before you know it he won't want anything to do with you! Enjoy each moment!

3 I think it's possible to breastfeed during the day but not at night. When my youngest was about 15 months old I finally decided to cut out nighttime nursing. I wasn't getting any sleep, and he didn't need the nutrition.

The first few days were rough, but after that he was sleeping all night in his crib, napping too, but still nursing during the day. At that point I think he only nursed first thing in the morning and again right before bed. Deintus, if you want to change the way your son sleeps, you need to be consistent.

Make sure he is getting enough to eat and sleep during the day and that he doesn't have any health problems (like ear infection, teething, etc. ). Nurse him before bed, sing to him, cuddle him, and take a extra minutes to sooth him. Put him onto his cot, give him another hug and kiss, and tell him goodnight.

Then leave the room. Wait at least five minutes, then go in to pat his back and gently tell him goodnight again. Don't pick him up.

Then, wait ten minutes. If he's still crying, go in and comfort him again without picking him up. Wait a bit longer each time before you go in to comfort him.

If the longest you can listen to him cry without going to him is 15 minutes, that's fine. Keep this up until he falls asleep.Do the same thing each time he wakes up in the night and also for his nap during the day. Then, each night wait a bit longer before going in to comfort him.

He's an older toddler and probably set in his ways, but if you are consistent you'll all be sleeping much better within a week. If you want more information on this sleep method, look for the book "Solving Your Child's Sleep Problems" by Ferber. There are other books and methods for getting babies and toddlers to sleep through the night, but I haven't tried them.

Right now he is using you as his pacifier, and all he needs is to develop a new habit and learn to put himself to sleep. Good luck! .

I think it's possible to breastfeed during the day but not at night. When my youngest was about 15 months old I finally decided to cut out nighttime nursing. I wasn't getting any sleep, and he didn't need the nutrition.

The first few days were rough, but after that he was sleeping all night in his crib, napping too, but still nursing during the day. At that point I think he only nursed first thing in the morning and again right before bed. Deintus, if you want to change the way your son sleeps, you need to be consistent.

Make sure he is getting enough to eat and sleep during the day and that he doesn't have any health problems (like ear infection, teething, etc. ). Nurse him before bed, sing to him, cuddle him, and take a extra minutes to sooth him. Put him onto his cot, give him another hug and kiss, and tell him goodnight.

Then leave the room. Wait at least five minutes, then go in to pat his back and gently tell him goodnight again. Don't pick him up.

Then, wait ten minutes. If he's still crying, go in and comfort him again without picking him up. Wait a bit longer each time before you go in to comfort him.

If the longest you can listen to him cry without going to him is 15 minutes, that's fine. Keep this up until he falls asleep.Do the same thing each time he wakes up in the night and also for his nap during the day. Then, each night wait a bit longer before going in to comfort him.

He's an older toddler and probably set in his ways, but if you are consistent you'll all be sleeping much better within a week. If you want more information on this sleep method, look for the book "Solving Your Child's Sleep Problems" by Ferber. There are other books and methods for getting babies and toddlers to sleep through the night, but I haven't tried them.

Right now he is using you as his pacifier, and all he needs is to develop a new habit and learn to put himself to sleep. Good luck!

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