My bf says he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me, he has been married but won't marry me?

My bf says he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me, he has been married but won't marry me Asked by lost~ 27 months ago Similar questions: bf loves spend rest life married won't marry Lifestyle > Relationships.

Similar questions: bf loves spend rest life married won't marry.

In that case it is all lip service Marriage is a sign of true commitment, come what may. Yes, the #1 cause of divorce is marriage. So think very carefully if he is the person YOU want to spend the rest of YOUR life with.

If marriage and kids are important to you, probably he is not. Better to know it now than waste x number of years on a person who does not see your point of view on this matter. Having said that, marriage is no guarantee of anything.

Hard work, love, compassion and understanding are needed every day to make a marriage work. It is not something you can put on 'cruise control' because if you do, you get 'overdrawn at the love bank' and everyone gets unhappy. Pardon the mixed metaphors, I just mean, it takes effort to live with someone in harmony, and if you are not willing to own your part in the success or failure of any relationship, marriage or otherwise, it will be tough.

Finally, I have to say, guys are a lot more sensitive to failure than we are. He has been married before, it did not work out, there was a world of pain, he wants to avoid it. Even if he is just 'playing' you, and does not really mean what he says, he has had a tough time and perhaps even though he is in a relationship with you, it is still too soon?

Best of luck with it! Do your own thing, with or without him, to live your own truth, and you will be happy no matter what.

I don't know why... ...but I have a prickly reaction to that. I am sure he is telling you that 'see, marriage doesn't work' - and maybe he is telling the truth. Do you know the reason for the ending of the marriage?

That would interest me. Maybe I am too cynical, but I have heard that line before from men who were the problem in a broken marriage. Just keep your eyes and ears open..

Perhaps Divorce is very painful for all involved. It leaves a life long scar. I can't blame him for not wanting to marry again.

But what he doesn't realize is that a "relationship" is a marriage. It just isn't legal. If you two break up, it will hurt him just like getting a divorce.It will just be less expensive and perhaps less complicated.

If he is telling the truth about loving you, tell him to find the courage to commit or take a hike.

He sounds dissolutioned with marriage. I assume you are young, want to get married and have children. You deserve this just as any young woman who thinks she has met the love of her life.

Since he is adverse to this lifestyle, what is he offering you? Just what kind of future do you think you will have with this man? My advice.

Run for the nearest exit. I was in the same situation years ago, and what I was offered was to live with him without the benefit of marriage or commitment. It took me years to wake up that he didn't love me the right way--the way you do when you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone.

This is basically selfish behavior because he isn't thinking about your future. That's only the beginning. You will begin to resent him, especially since he will occasionally look at other women, saying to them that he isn't married.

You will make yourself vulnerable in buying property, and having children. Wake up. Don't settle.

Find someone that will love you enough to give you a fulfilling life.

1 I'm not sure what you're asking, but I've seen that sort of thing before. A friend of mine went through a bad divorce, and he never got married again. It was kind of a fear of commitment, I guess.

Maybe you should see if he'll try couples therapy with you.

I'm not sure what you're asking, but I've seen that sort of thing before. A friend of mine went through a bad divorce, and he never got married again. It was kind of a fear of commitment, I guess.

Maybe you should see if he'll try couples therapy with you.

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