My boyfriend and I've been dating over 2 years. He says he loves me very much, but he isn't sure if he want to marry me?

My boyfriend and I've been dating over 2 years. He says he loves me very much, but he isn't sure if he want to marry me. I want to marry my boyfriend of over two years.

He says he loves me very much and would love to be with me forever, but he isn't sure it will happen. He claims we need to be dating a long time for him to be sure if we are completely compatible. I love him so much, but I will not wait for him forever.

I don't want to get hurt. I am scared that after another 3 years of dating he still won't be sure about us and I will be hurt. I just don't know what to do!

I told him that he won't know that we are compatible if he doesn't help our relationship go to new levels. He won't even consider the idea of us living together sometime in the next two years. Does he need to grow up?

Asked by blissful 23 months ago Similar questions: boyfriend dating years loves marry Lifestyle > Relationships.

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You are very smart! I feel for you. You sound most compassionate, loving, sincere and ready for a committed relationship.

But he isn't. I must admit, though, two years is not a long time to date. I do not know your ages or circumstances.

You have enough common sense and intelligence to pick up that something is not right. And it looks like it may never be right. That is sad.

You have given your all to him and you are still in pain. He does not want to commit. He is still not sure if he wants you as a marriage partner.

He is still wandering around with a single person's attitude. No commitment there. You may need to sit him down and and give him an ultimatum.

Sounds like you have already expressed your views and feelings. He has expressed his. You need to know how long he is going to lead you on.

He must commit at least within two years and show more interest in developing the relationship. Or get rid of him! Sounds like he may be hoping or thinking about meeting someone else and is leading you on.

That is cruel. Does he tell you he loves you, shows romantic gestures, buys you gifts and loves to spend time with you? Do you think he loves you?

Or you are handy to have around for a while. It is time for action to sort out your life and his. Something is not right.

Best wishes.. Sources: My Take.

Love does not mean to be confined true love need not required any social engagement. So if he really love you then what is the need of marriage. If you try to confined his love into social engagement it may not flourish like new buds..

He either does not want to surrender autonomy/independence (and thus should grow up) or fears what marriage would do. And that latter one is the difficult one. A fair number of people are watching this whole "marriage" fiasco play out in California while seeing that about half of the actual marriages of heterosexuals end in divorce anyway (so much for "protecting" it, eh what?) Kurt Russel and Goldie Hawn are in 20+ years of modeling a stable relationship--with children--with never having married.

He might be very afraid of not being able to handle the many expectations that come with lifelong committment. Back about 70 years ago, our culture told BOTH man AND woman what those expectations were. Then we thought we needed to call them "old fashioned" and "hidebound" and "fuddy duddy" and "outdated.

" Now there are no expectations; but make-of-it-what-you-will is no path to security. One needs help and only knows that one cannot get any. A common response at that point is, "Why try?

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1 "Growing-up" has nothing to do with it. It appears that he's just "stringing you along" until someone he likes better comes along. Dump him, and move on.

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1 "Growing-up" has nothing to do with it. It appears that he's just "stringing you along" until someone he likes better comes along. Dump him, and move on.

Growing-up" has nothing to do with it. It appears that he's just "stringing you along" until someone he likes better comes along. Dump him, and move on.

3 I just want to reinforce Marshall's advice. In my own life, at a time when I wanted to start a family and have a child, I wasted way too much time on staying with a few men who wouldn't committ, even after we had been living together for a few years. And as Marshall also says, basically this is a case of someone using you and the relationship as something to depend on until an opportunity he likes better comes along.

If I were you, I'd just tell him you're tired of putting a lot in the relationship with no committment resulting, and you'd rather not waste your time, so you're going back into the dating pool. Tell him -- if it's true -- that he's good enough as a friend, but you're looking for a long-term, committed relationship, and you've simply waited long enough. This is much better than waiting for a break-up over something that you end up taking personally that hurts you even more.

And don't take it personally that he doesn't want to committ. Many men do this. It's your time to move on now.

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3 I just want to reinforce Marshall's advice. In my own life, at a time when I wanted to start a family and have a child, I wasted way too much time on staying with a few men who wouldn't committ, even after we had been living together for a few years. And as Marshall also says, basically this is a case of someone using you and the relationship as something to depend on until an opportunity he likes better comes along.

If I were you, I'd just tell him you're tired of putting a lot in the relationship with no committment resulting, and you'd rather not waste your time, so you're going back into the dating pool. Tell him -- if it's true -- that he's good enough as a friend, but you're looking for a long-term, committed relationship, and you've simply waited long enough. This is much better than waiting for a break-up over something that you end up taking personally that hurts you even more.

And don't take it personally that he doesn't want to committ. Many men do this. It's your time to move on now.

Good luck.

I just want to reinforce Marshall's advice. In my own life, at a time when I wanted to start a family and have a child, I wasted way too much time on staying with a few men who wouldn't committ, even after we had been living together for a few years. And as Marshall also says, basically this is a case of someone using you and the relationship as something to depend on until an opportunity he likes better comes along.

If I were you, I'd just tell him you're tired of putting a lot in the relationship with no committment resulting, and you'd rather not waste your time, so you're going back into the dating pool. Tell him -- if it's true -- that he's good enough as a friend, but you're looking for a long-term, committed relationship, and you've simply waited long enough. This is much better than waiting for a break-up over something that you end up taking personally that hurts you even more.

And don't take it personally that he doesn't want to committ. Many men do this. It's your time to move on now.

Good luck.

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