My brother in law is cheating on my sister do I tell?

My sister has been married 17 years and has three beautiful children. Her husband is a doctor and she has never worked. But in the last year they have run into a lot of fionancial difficulties.

I recently found out through mutual friends that he is having an affair and I suspect that is where the money is going. I am worried about my sister and her kids. He even let the electricity get shut off and they are months behind in their mortgage.

I want to tell her but my mother says to stay out of it and my husband says it will make me the bad guy. How can I let this continue and say nothing? If she knew I knew she would be devastated.

What do I do? Asked by jbbloom 49 months ago Similar questions: brother law cheating sister Family.

Similar questions: brother law cheating sister.

If its absolutly true then you must tell her. First I would make sure that the information is 100% true, then I would sit her down somewhere quiet and talk with her and lovingly tell her she needs to find out where all the money is going, so she can protect herself and her childrens future. Tell her up front how you found out and that your love her so much that to do nothing was not an option.

If she chooses to blame or dismiss this then tell her that’s her choice and you will always be there if she ever needs anything. Tell her if it were you in this situation, you would want her to come to you because she is your sister and if she loves you ,she too would want to help you and want you to know. She may at first have a lot of emotions but after it sinks in, she will accept and defend what is hers and her childrens.

Remember your not doing this to hurt her, your doing this because you love her, she is your sister and right is always right. I hope this helps, I try to live by the words "If you don’t stand for something then you stand for nothing". Trust yourself ,you know what you want to do and should do, listen to your own voice, and trust your sisters love for you.

Good luck .

It is your sister...I would tell her. It is your sister...I would tell her period. She deserves to know.

I would make very sure that the rumors you are hearing are true before revealing the info. Your b-in-l is going to deny everything and turn into the biggest liar you can imagine. People in affairs change...most times they will do anything to keep the affair alive and secret.

The only way to end an affair typically is to expose it to everyone. Be there for your sister...she is going to need a lot of support. I would recommend the following web site...your sister will be able to find a lot of info on affairs and a lot of people in the forums will be there to support her and offer advice.

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Try to clear your own conscience I know it might make you the bad guy, but maybe you can at least just say that you suspect that he might be cheating or put her in contact with someone else to tell her the truth. You don't have to be the actual bad guy, but what if she finds out that you knew all along? Perhaps that would hurt her even more.

If it was me in your sister's situation I would want to know. I hope it helps! .

This is your sister! Tell her the truth. If you are CERTAIN...I mean more proof than the word of mutual friends...Tell her...nothing would be so devastating, on top of finding out, as to know everyone knew but you and that even your closest family members didn't tell you.

Then tell her you will stand by whatever decision she makes, counseling, confrontation, temporary separation, divorce...however she plans to react, you are there to support her decision. And make sure she protects herself and her children financially! Sources: Personal opinion .

It seems like you should tell her but... I had a best friend years ago. A friend I still miss sometimes, now. She was engaged to this jerk and he was cheating on her.

He made no attempts to hide it at our local haunts and it seemed everyone knew it but her. We all talked about it and decided that since I was the closest to her, I should tell her. I really danced around telling her when the time came, but I finally told her.

She broke up with him immediately. We spent a lot of time together while she adjusted to living without him. She called him all sorts of things, which I agreed totally.

Well, a few months later, they reconciled. I was her best friend so I just said if you can forgive him, so can I. Although we both trashed him while they were briefly separated, she only seemed to remember the things I said about him.

She stopped talking to me and we were never friends again. So, it may seem like the right thing to do....Maybe you should do what your mom says. I know I would want to know, but you never know what may happen if you do tell her.

I hope this helped! Leigh Sources: my own experience .

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My brother in law is going in the army and my sister and I want to make a toast to him. Can you help me find the words?

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My Dad Divorced my Big Brother and Sister's mom. Then he remarried. What family relation would their mom be to me?

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