My daughter inlaw insists on letting her 10 month old scream till hes choking when putting him down for a nap?

My daughter inlaw insists on letting her 10 month old scream till hes choking when putting him down for a nap. She puts him in his crib, shuts the door and just lets him scream. Asked by monomammal 8 days ago Similar questions: daughter inlaw insists letting 10 month scream till hes choking putting nap Family > Parenting.

Similar questions: daughter inlaw insists letting 10 month scream till hes choking putting nap.

Her kid--her business. I bet your parents didn't like some of how you raised you kids....

Her child, her business - exactly. Unless there is abuse - stay out of the raising of the child.

Your daughter in law is doing a good job. As long as he is healthy and not sick he needs to be able to get to sleep on his own.

Sounds like good behavior to me - you should never give in to tantrums, and you certainly should not reward them.

If that is what it takes to show him that he must take a nap. S screaming and crying is not going to hurt him. Kids can be very willful and if she gives in, she will never be able to show him, he must to as his parents say.

Have you never seen Super Nanny, she does the same thing. It is quite common and needed. It may sound horrible but it is not hurting the child.

I could not handle that...didn't let my kids cry. I fed them first and held/rocked them. She may not know any other way.

Offer to baby sit maybe and help mentor her if she is open to it. Talk positive to her about it...no blame/shame etc...

I think she's going a little overboard. I can agree w/ the letting him cry & put himself to sleep, I just think she should soothe him enough to prevent him from choking if possible.

I, poppie, have stayed out of their business. I believe that they do a great job in raising their first born. It's a different style than mine and my wife's but he is very healthy and well rounded.

They live on the lower level of our home and this makes it heart wrenching to hear when he's put down for a nap or sleep. I assume that his reaction will mellow in time. Our feeling was that a little quiet time, a little rocking, maybe a soft melody, might work better.

They are both educators and seem to feel that their approach is proven. I just started this question to try and get others opinions. I agree with most of you.

The family model has changed over the years. When my first born arrived, we had many questions and received great knowledge from our elders. Some great , some not so great, but all coming from love.

Maybe its a teacher thing and books, the internert ect. , are felt to have more value than first hand experience. Well anyhow, We are here and continue to support.

Thankyou for all your input. Monomammal 7 days ago .

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