There's an old saying, "A son is a son till he takes a wife, a daughter's a daughter the rest of her life?

There's an old saying, "A son is a son till he takes a wife, a daughter's a daughter the rest of her life"........ I would like to hear from parents of adult sons regarding your relationship with your son after he got married and began a family of his own - specifically from parents who seem to be shut out of your son's life. My sister was a single mom who raised her son alone. She worked 2 jobs, and from the time my nephew was 10 his dad was no longer in his life.

Now he is 40, with a wife and a 6 year old. He never seems to want to spend any time with my sister, never talks to her on the phone, and gets agitated or aggravated any time she asks him to fix anything for her. These are usually small things, like a broken vacum cleaner handle, or some small repair to her home.

Even when she offers to pay him he seems unwilling to take the time. He is very good at this sort of stuff, in fact built an entire add on to his home by himself, with help from friends. Her daughter in law calls her occasionally, and she's invited to holiday dinners and birthday.....oops, go to Discussion Board...... Asked by Kar* 41 months ago Similar questions: son till takes wife daughter's daughter rest life Lifestyle > Relationships.

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The two greatest loves in my life Mark 10:7-8 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. I love my mother dearly but once I got married I realized that I had to make a choice either give my emotional time to my wife or my mother. I am the youngest of eight children.

When my mother introduces me to someone she always says "this is my baby" even though I am an adult. I was also born on my Mother’s birthday so our bond is extremely strong. I realized that the relationship with my wife could get strained if she felt I was not putting her first in my life.

When my wife and my mother are together I can feel the tension between them even though they always try to be civil to each other. In a lot of ways my wife’s personality mirrors my mother’s. I’ve been lucky because each has tried to get along although my Mom enjoys little off the wall comments every now and then.

She sometimes says things to my wife like "are you putting on weight" or "You look tired. The children must be running you ragged". These things my mom says just to get a reaction from my wife.

When we first got married I mentioned to my wife that I missed my mom’s meatloaf. My wife was mad at me for a week and didn’t want to cook. It was then I started to realize I would have to be careful about what I say and how delicate it would be to show both of these woman I love them..

My yOungest son married a girl 7 years older than he was and she was pregnant at the time. She threatened to get an abortion if he did not marry her and so he did ....she immediately turned him away from his family, withheld the child from us and as most of you know, she is now in prison for the murder of my 6 year old grandson. I had only seen him one time since 2004 as she would not allow us to see him and Shawn, my son, was not to call us or get in touch with us at all.It was not all her fault, as he is a grown man and could have done what he wished to do but I think to do other than what she said to do was bad news for him.

My oldest son married a very sweet girl, from a nice family, she is now a CPA, but is also a Daddy's girl, which is nothing wrong with that ...but she tends to want to do everything with her family. For instance the other day my son said Mom we want to start taking some "date nights" we would like for you to babysit sometimes...which I would love to do, by the way, I said well great...bring her to our house, now that she sleeps in a big bed...she is 3.5 now.......I said I know that her mom keeps her some weekends and We would love to do that ..he says ...we have to make sure that you know what to do ...SCUSE ME ...how does HE think that he got to be 33 years old? LOL So I would say a lot of times that saying is true, because most of the time ...men want to keep their wives happy so they do as they are told to do ... Sources: my opinion and my life ...

I was a single parent also My son is 33 we have had our up and downs, when he is not in a relationship, mom is the best thing going and called me everyday, when he has a girl friend, I hardly hear from him in less he wants something, a few weeks ago, I went to Canada, we sent him and his g/f a t shirt, never got a call thank you what ever, from either on e of them, I emailed and ment5ioned that at least his ex had manners, and he went off, saying if I felt that way about his g/f I was dis-invited from their wedding, I said fine, he said a bunch of crap and said a real mother wouldn't do that, and if I felt that way, I wasn't his mother, I said fine, you have no mother, its time for him to grow up, were tired of the actions, and as far as IM concerned, he made his bed now sleep in it, he also never wants kids, so he can't use that either.. oh well that's life, am I hurt NO, am I angry, never was, I busted my butt with 2 jobs and full time college student to make it better for the both of us.. but he has turned out to be a selfish ass. And now that IM 54, I have no time for it....

He never seems to want to spend any time with my sister, never talks to her on the phone, and gets agitated or aggravated any time she asks him to fix anything for her. "Men don't simply like to 'spend time' with someone unless there's a reason for it, and most mom's and sons don't have a lot of things discussion wise to talk about from the son's point of view; women like to hash over all the little details of every person's life and relationship, while a man usually finds that sort of conversation extremely tedious (which is why we rarely call our moms 'to chat'). We also don't like being someone's handyman; many of us have plenty of chores to do around our own jobs and homes, without becoming the service man for anyone else.

Far too many women have children so they can have someone's unconditional love and attention for the rest of their life, and expect 'dutiful' children to behave in whatever way they want those children to be. Sorry, moms, some of us boys grow up into men who understand that you have kids to love them and set them free, not expect them to be your friend and companion for life. Men stay in frequent contact with people that we have common interests with; and sadly for women, that usually doesn't include constant conversation about relationships and what most of us consider the picayune details of our lives.

I have two sons. My eldest just got married nine months ago. Until his marriage,he would call me at least once a week.

He would come to visit at least once a month. I enjoyed his company and we could talk on all subjects. Since his marriage the calls get fewer and fewer.

He visits now are hurried and always revolve around his new wife's agenda. I have had a hard time letting him go but find with time I can get along with my life. S wife is very judgmental.

She comes from a wealthy family and I fear my son now will have to work double time to support the standard of living she is accustomed to , therefore I have not seen him relax since his marriage. My youngest son is single and I see him every day, but I am now preparing myself and doing things to protect my feelings. I am getting busy with my own life.

Rinra, keep keeping busy! I have learned that once they grow up, marry and leave for good, it will never be the same. I am not talking about a son either, but my oldest daughter.

I have stopped expecting anything from her or my grandson, to whom I was like a second mother. When I got separated from my husband it got even worse. This is that time in our life when we have to realize that we are done with that phase, and we have to find new people and new interests for OURSELVES.It's a hard pill to swallow, but I am gradually becoming glad to let go, and start living my life for what matters to me.

It can actually end up being adventurous and exciting, just give it time! Good luck to you! Kar* 11 months ago .

" "Why does my daughter-in-law keep my son away from me?" "when a president leaves office he gets a salary for the rest of his life . Does his wife also receive a salary? " "If I have A+ and my wife has AB+, can my son be B-?" "man is held up in L.A. Traffic,its hot; he losses it; takes off on foot to visit his estranged wife and daughter" "I want to have a son but my wife can't.

We can't afford to adopt, What can I do? " "what are my rights if my wife leaves and takes my son" "my daughter's father has never been in her life till about 2 months ago. What rights does he have?

" "Do you think this saying is true? A son is your son until he takes a wife but your daughter is your daughter for the rest.

When a president leaves office he gets a salary for the rest of his life . Does his wife also receive a salary?

Man is held up in L.A. Traffic,its hot; he losses it; takes off on foot to visit his estranged wife and daughter.

I want to have a son but my wife can't. We can't afford to adopt, What can I do?

What are my rights if my wife leaves and takes my son.

My daughter's father has never been in her life till about 2 months ago. What rights does he have?

A son is your son until he takes a wife but your daughter is your daughter for the rest.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.