My future wife's mother wants to have her bridal shower in a rented school hall?

The issue is deeper than that. Your Mother was probably upset with her about a number of things. First of all, living with parents (when we are older), well, sucks.

It sounds like your Mother was upset already and that your Fiance ditching her at dinner was the boiling point. The "disrespect" comment from your Mother was probably more than just dinner. It could have been a number of things.

However, that still shouldn't stop her from coming to your wedding, no matter how it has escalated. Also when she said that "unless this is resolved she will not be at our wedding and there is no chance our marriage would work". Why?

Is she going to expect you to choose her over your Wife? Is she saying that she will make it harder for you two? I must ask, when your fiance moved out to her parents, why didn't you go with her?

If I was your fiance, I would be worried that you will side with your Mother throughout your marriage. Plus, the fact that you stayed has proven to your Mother that you, in a way, agree with her. And, that is why she continues to "bad mouth" your fiance, she must feel like she's justified in her actions and you staying with your Mom has confirmed that for her (your Mom).

You have to put yourself in your Fiance's shoes. If the situation were reversed, and her Father was the one angry with you, and you moved in with your Mother and she didn't come with you, how would that make you feel? Would you feel like she chose her Father over you?

And then her Father continued to make nasty statements about you to your fiance (when for five years everything has been fine), would you want to be around her Father? Would you want her around her Father? It sounds like your Mom is having a hard time letting you go and is taking it out on your Fiance.

Hopefully you'll get it sorted and you have many wonderful years with your new wife. Best of luck to you both.

Your mother is about to lose her little boy. Your fiancee is doing a fairly good job of taking a beating. You need to go have lunch with her mom, spill your heart about what a wonderful mother she has been, what a fab job she did raising you, how you will always be there to take care of her, that you love her unconditionally etc etc etc. Then tell her you love your fiancee, but she will never take her place.

But that you WILL be marrying her. You want her to be at the wedding, be a part of your life. You need to convince your fiancee to forgive and move on.

Tell your mother she needs to do the same. If worse comes to worse sit them both down, tell them how you feel and tell them you cannot go on until they BOTH apologize and move on. Explain to them you are not choosing sides and that they have to learn to get along for the sake of losing you.

You mother is clearly in the wrong here with her behavior, but because she is so beyond reasonable here...your fiancee is going to have to step up and be the better woman. She is going to have to convince your mom that she isn't taking you away, and that she wants to have a relationship with her. Once she "admits" fault and "apologizes" (all for show), your mom will likely break down and cry, and it will all end in hugs and forgiveness.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.