I have been invited for a bridal shower but not the wedding for a first cousin. is a shower gift necessary?

I have been invited for a bridal shower but not the wedding for a first cousin. Is a shower gift necessary? This particular cousin has been to my wedding and now my brother's wedding that is coming up.

I found out by accident that we weren't invited to the wedding - relatives had to call the family if the invite was just for the uncles/aunts and not for the cousins. The explanation is size, however my issue is upfrontness. We have seen the bride on other occasions and have asked her about her wedding.

Because we're family, is she obligated to be upfront about her invitees? Asked by nkasak 7 months ago Similar questions: invited bridal shower wedding cousin gift Lifestyle > Weddings.

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A "gift", by definition, is never necessary. It's her wedding. Stop making it about you.It's about her and her fiance.

Stop trying to burden her with your own issues. If you think you've been slighted and want to get back at her by not buying her a gift, that's your perogative. Personally, I think it makes you look very childish and petty.

Assume your cousin is doing the best she can. Go to the shower, take a really thoughtful gift, and do your best to make sure you and everyone else has a wonderful time. Do not bring up the issue of your invitation.Be the bigger person.

Do not give in to pettiness.

Thanks for your answer. Nkasak 7 months ago .

That is improper etiquette , if you are invited to the shower, you should also be invited to the wedding. You were kind enough to invite her to your wedding, but IMO whats she's saying is she wants a gift, but you're not good enough to attend her wedding, its just plain rude. superweddings.com/theweddingexpert3.html html.

I would never go to a shower without bring a present. Presents -- helping the bride establish her new home -- are the whole point of having a shower. If you're not close to the bride, you don't have to buy something huge.Do think what it would feel like to see her open a microwave gift then your present next.

I understand holding down the size of her wedding (expense, etc. ), but inviting you to the shower only is rude and a money grab in my opinion. She should have been upfront and just told you she was holding down the invitation list. You can make up your own mind on what to do: go and bring a present, send a present and not go, ask her why you've been invited to the shower but not the wedding and indicate that it's not right in your opinion.

Being a relative should make it easier to talk to her. If she came to your wedding and brought a gift, and you know she's going to attend your brother's wedding, then maybe you want to take the high road.

Thanks for your input. I have decided to send a present and not go. Nkasak 7 months ago .

There probably is a limit to the amount of money to spend on the wedding. My parents controlled how many I could invite to my wedding since they were paying for it. My mother-in-law had a large family and agreed to just my husbands brothers and sister.

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Am attending wedding. Should I send gift to shower? " "I received a card stating I was not invited to the wedding, but I am welcome to the shower.

Is this common?

No time to get anything personlized or sent from the Registry...

Went to the shower, took a nice gift. Going to the wedding too. Take another gift?

I don't. My friend does. Who's right?

Should you buy a Bridal Shower gift and a Wedding gift ...if so suggestions please.

I was invited to a wedding shower, not attending shower. Am attending wedding. Should I send gift to shower?

I received a card stating I was not invited to the wedding, but I am welcome to the shower. Is this common?

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