My girlfriend " expects " me to pay for majority of things?

She sounds really annoying and overdramatic. I'd end it.

Well start earning some money or youll be paying for poon tang.

I'm from the old school and when my guy asks me out to dinner, I feel he can pay. However, if I want something on a whim, I buy it myself. I'd say that, if you two want to do expensive things, like go to concerts, then she could pitch in, yes.

I wouldn't mind doing that either, and i've done things for my boyfriend -- even bought him tires once when he needed them. It was no big deal. Maybe it's time to have a heart to heart about finances.

Couldn't hurt.

Move on. She's an adult and should take care of herself. I never expect a man to pay for anything for me.

She seems immature; I'd end it.

Hoenstly, she doesn't seem to be appreciating your effort. If I were you, I would move on. You sound determined, so you could do much better a relationship is good when both partners trust and help each other .. you probably won't keep up with this for very long ... so might as well just be smart now and think of what's best for YOU .

Juvenile behavior, not honest adult you are dealing with. Reminds me of those Subway commercials with the baby voices. youtube.com/watch?v=xTCPNi4nd….

Obviously she thinks it's normal to be this way because she learnt from her mom. I seriously wish I could be this way and not feel guilty. I end up paying for most things cause I'm too independent and sometimes we do it 50/50 when he has a job.In the old days men were fully responsible for spending.

She doesn't have a job now so I guess you will have to keep doing this if you two are serious about each other for the long term. If not serious tell her you need some space to save and try to be financially settled as you're stressed out with all the payments. Maybe you're a push over when she asks so she's abusing this.

Only buy things that she needs, not wants.

I believe relationship shouldn't let anything that MONEY would be involved. Especially paying for foods, gas etc... You should be independent with whatever you guys are using. I mean even when already married, my mom and dad always shared to pay for certain stuffs.

Just because you're a guy, doesn't mean you have to pay for everything. Nope. That's TOTALLY WRONGGG!

I'm a girl myself, even on dates, I never let a guy pays everything. If he pays for movie tickets, I would offer to pay for dinner. And when I dated someone, it's always half and half.

If letting the guy pays everything, it becomes a habit and one become so inconsiderate. Spending money on your gf for nice presents and on special occasions are different with paying her bills and all her expenses. It's true that if you want how a girl would behave like when you marry her as a wife?

Look at her mother. Move on man. Relationship is about thinking for one another.

Not I spend your money because my mom said that's how it should goes. Gluck buddy!

Wow, yeah man it should deff. Be 50/50, like you said its totally understandable if shes laid off at the moment but when she starts working again it should be fair. Come on just because your a man doesn't mean you should always pay for her crap.

Yeah for a 21 year old she sounds like a real catch dude lol *sarcasm* her walking away from you like that in an obviously upset manner is not mature at all. This is exactly how problems in relationships are never solved. I advise you to seriously stop buying her everything all the time starting now.

If she pulls a little girl fit over it, then you know a "woman" like her is not worth it. Thats so selfish of her. Agreed she shouldn't be taking much love advise from a mother whose been through enough failed marriages.

Stand up for yourself, Learn to say a NO is a NO (not fair for you lol) and if she doesn't accept where your coming from then maybe a "little less stress" you can get rid of. Good luck.

When me and my husband started dating he would pay for one date, and I would pay for the next. Your girlfriends sounds very selfish, thats really not fair for you to pay for everything, and if she cant accept that then maybe you should break up with her, you deserve soooo much better.

Brother, I have encountered this behaviour before. The other person just rides your purse strings whilst you take the hit. The answer of course lies in your head, and really depends on how you feel and whether its worth it.

If you love her and she satisfies you enough and really(really) makes you happy then it won't bother you anyway. The fact you've even asked the question says to me that you aren't that happy in the relationship. You're 20...that's not very old at all.

You should be happy, if you aren't then ditch her. Plenty more fish in the sea. (that sounds harsh but times a good healer and when one door closes others are already open.).

There are all sorts of females. Most women are willing to let their boyfriend buy dinner and movie more often than they do ( so it is but most girls are also willing to sometimes reciprocate) however since she isn't supporting herself I can't figure out a single reason for you to be giving her money for gas and food and stuff. She's living at home off her Mom, right?

The same Mom who wants you to be forking out more money for her adult daughter? That's actually funny. Do they work as a tag team?

Let this seep. Yes, she sounds high maintenance but should she decide that she'd rather have YOU than the next guy with a easier wallet.... if she showed up in a week with a job and an apology, would you take her back? You sound really really mad but I'm not sure you sound done.

I did not even need to read your whole story to know this female is high maintenance. In a relationship, one person can not do EVERYTHING unless you got money out the ***. Id say stick to your word and move on.

Tell her that if she wishes to be with you, she will have to understand that you don't mind paying for things every now and then, but she also can. Relationships are 50/50 from both people and she has failed to realize that. I know many women liked to be taken care of but when me and my bf go out, he can pay or I can pay.Im not so rude to allow him to keep paying exspecially if I have the money.

My money is his money and his is mine. Find a girl that does not mind coming out of pocket. She sounds money greedy and hunni women like that will leave you dry and bounce once its all gone.

My bf works construction and I know that working and having to come home to a wife or gf who is unappreciative and rude and constantly wants knowing your stressed is hard. Find a girl who understand when you come home you want to relax and if you to go out, that you would appreciate it if she shows you a good time.

When I first start dating someone then I do kind of expect them to pay for me when we go on dates... most guys I've dated do this automatically without even talking about it, y'know it's just what happens and I really appreciate it, makes me feel like a lady and makes me see them as a maaaannn. But if I'm in a serious relationship that's lasted longer than 4-6 months then I don't really expect it that much.. I expect that sometimes they pay for me and sometimes I pay for them and sometimes we pay for ourselves.. but overall I'm gonna say it should be more of a 60/40 thing lol.. I'm not opposed to a 50/50 thing but I think most guys would be just go ahead and pay for some things anyways. But yeah, she sounds a bit unappreciative.. I wouldn't end the relationship if this is the first time something like this happened, you said she had a job but hasn't work in a month?

Maybe she's just cranky/frustrated with not having a job and not being able to go out and treat herself to breakfast and cheese bread from domino's and is taking out on you and/or finding another way to get what she wants? Just talk to her and tell her how you feel and what you expect and if she really can't handle the 50/50 thing THEN move on... although I do think helping out with gas money is a reasonable thing to do if she's always traveling to your house.. the guy I'm seeing now lives 15 miles away and I always go over there and it adds up so he gives me gas money sometimes.

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