My sister is planning on putting her three year old son up for adoption. I was going to get custody but it is taking to long and she wants?

Offer to keep her child with you until custody goes through. You are planning on adopting him anyway- might as well start taking care of him now. Plus it will ease up her anxiety and she won't be looking for someone else to adopt.My advice, let her know that you really want to adopt him and that you are willing to do what it takes.

Be patient with her, and offer to help in anyway you can. Good luck! This sounds like a hard position to be in.

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Would it not be an option for you to just take care of him in your home, kind of under the radar, until the custody was transferred? You might want to contact an adoption lawyer in your area who can give you specific advice.

I'm sad to hear that you wouldn't be comfortable with a gay couple adopting your nephew, but it's obvious that he does need a new home. Even if you don't gain custody, you may be able to work out a situation with the new parents so that you can stay involved in his life. I hope this situation works out best for everyone involved.

Good luck!

Call child protective services and report her for neglect. It will be anonymous and she probably won't even be punished (well, healthy people consider having their children taken away a punishment). The social worker will always try to put the child in a relative's home.

Adoption still takes a long time, but you would be the foster parent in the meantime. But since she doesn't want the child anyway, I don't understand why she doesn't just leave him with you. Whatever happens, the child will need routine and structure in his life.

Try to get him into Head Start, a regional center, and therapy. He will definitely have attachment issues to deal with. You and your son could try Alanon as it sounds like your sister is probably suffering from an addiction.

It usually is easier to get guardianship rather than adopt. It's handled in a different court. Check with an attorney who specializes in this area.

Good luck to you.

There is probably not enough info here to give you good advice. For example the custody thing. Why doesn't she just let you raise the child?

I hesitate to say, consult a lawyer, but that might be best. Another possibility would be to contact an adoption consultant or an advocate who could advocate for you. Is there a clergy person that she would listen to on your behalf?

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