O.K., maybe I am out of the loop here, but I want to know how many of you parents in your mid twenties, to say late?

My daughter in law is constantly complaining about having to "have" to have the baby 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. This is amazing to me! She is 32, and all she ever talked about was having a baby.

She was a nanny for 6 years, so knows what it's like to be around kids. Her daughter is 2. About a month ago she bitched so much her mother, who is 63 took her daughter for a long weekend.

It was NOT easy for her, and she was worn out when it was over. It's not like they never go out. Her brother, mother and aunt babysit frequently.

They go out to dinner, or the movies, any time they like. I had NO ONE to watch my kids when I had them. I never had my children with the expectation of family taking care of them so I could go on long weekends and l0 day vacations.

My step son tells us that this is normal these days, and most people have family to watch their kids . What do you say? Is it the norm?

Asked by Kar* 41 months ago Similar questions: loop parents mid twenties late Lifestyle.

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Not very often We're in our late 30's with a 4-year-old daughter. We have a babysitter once a week most weeks for about 2 hours, and go out to dinner, though sometimes we stretch it to 3 hours and see a movie. That started when our daughter was 3.

When she was 2, dinner out was for special occasions, like birthdays. So far our daughter hasn't slept at a different house, unless we were there too. The 24-hour-a-day thing was the hardest to get used to, I admit.It was especially hard when our daughter stopped taking naps during the day.

Even now, it is the one thing that I find really tough. I am a stay-at-home mom with parents who are generous with their time, a wonderful husband who certainly does his share, and good friends who will let me get a half hour breather when I most need it. Still, it is hard.

A weekend away will have to wait a while, for us. I have no idea what the norm might be, and I suspect it varies wildly with region, family income, and family situation. Maybe your stepson knows a lot of people with family to watch their kids, but I don't think it is the most common situation.

Most people I know with such a set up have two income families and it is an alternative to day care. I don't know too many stay-at-home moms who get much time off from parenting. If your daughter-in-law wears out her support structure, though, one day she is going to start hearing "No.

" She owes her mother some flowers and a card, at the very least.

Well... I'm in my mid-late twenties (as is my husband), and I'll admit that we send the baby to have a weekend at grandma's house once per month. And we really look forward to it - it's a time mostly for us to do housework and rund errands during the day. We can go out at night.

A few things that may have sparked this generational change in behavior: 1. ) We have less trust for babysitters - As a society, we're getting more paranoid by the generation....and I don't know if it's justified or not. But nowadays hiring a babysitter is not as easy.

Babysitters often won't sit for people they don't know and vice versa. And less easy access to babysitters means fewer nights out for mom and dad to unwind. 2.) Working parents - When both parents work, they have a lot less time to do work around the house.

So there is an added pressure that past generations didn't have to face regarding time management. 3.) Modern Stay-at-Home Moms Face Unique Challenge - You know how most women/moms work today? Well that means that a lot of stay-at-home moms nowadays are more isolated than past generations.

There aren't as many women around the neighborhood, or friends at home to chat with on the phone. Everyone's at work! The result is that stay-at-home moms are feeling more isolated, lonelier, and feel more suffocated by the world of children - we all need adult conversation and stimulus now and then!

Plus it's not very fair to compare generations when really it all boils down to individuals. She's a woman and mother who needs a little more breathing room - not because she didn't know what she was getting into, but because that's what she needs to be a better mommy. If you didn't have that, do you wish you had?

Would it have made you a better mommy? Normally I get down on my generation for laziness, but in the case, I'm in favor of this trend. Getting back to a child being jointly raised by several members of the family is a lofty and wonderful prospect.

That is a lucky child to have so much exposure to such giving family members.So I hope you see the positives in this, and don't harp on your DIL for her parenting style or needs. She is just a human being, trying to do the best she can.

I cant even take a pee in peace (search for my question on privacy). I take my kids most everywhere I go. I don't and never have had anyone I could leave my kids with.

I feel horrible if I don't have them with me.My vacation is when they are at school and I have time to take care of things I cant just do when I have them home all day every day. Sure, I leave one of the younger ones with the teenager but I take one with me to the store, usually. My husband or I are always with the kids.

When I do go grocery shopping, the kids are home with dad or at school so my cart doesn't end up with things magically at the checkout. Sorry, but your daughter in law is selfish. That ME stage should have gone away when she became a mom.

Moms need ME time but to be gone 10 days without your child? She will be kicking herself in the pants when her child is grown and she missed out on things like watching the clouds go by while lying in the grass or catching crickets to keep in the house to listen to. Most moms I know that are my age (38) watch their own kids or only have them in daycare so they can work but spend plenty of time with thier kids when they aren't working and on weekends..

Great Question! I am 27 years old and I have a 7 year old son. He is very well mannered and it doesn't take much to care for him.

I have always taken care of him by myself (I have divorced and re-married) and he has never been without and I have never asked my family for help (monetary, babysitting, etc). Still I have trouble getting my family or anyone to keep him one day and/or night a month so my husband and I can have a date night, go to the big city and go shopping, go to a concert, or whatever. S grandparents only see him on holidays and when we run into them in town.

They never ask to watch him, therefore I always feel bad and they act like it is an inconvenience when I ask them to do so. We have become accustomed to going just places for him and staying home a lot. I still don't understand why grandparents and family wouldn't want to see or visit their grandkids, nieces, nephews, cousins, etc.At least once a month.

It has always puzzled me. My son also enjoys it when he can get away from his parents every once in awhile and visit grandparents as much as we love to get away every now and again.So, in conclusion, I didn't have my son with the expectation of family taking care of him, but it would be nice to be able to go somewhere with other adults sometime and not worry about it feeling like it is a hassle for everyone. Sources: my own personal experiences Mysterious1's Recommendations Do It Yourself/Retired Adult T-Shirt Cotton baby bib "My grandparents don't spoil me they're just very accomodating" .

I have never spent an evening away from my children I have asked for my mother to babysit my children a total of 5 times. I feel guilty asking for the help. I don't feel that I could trust a stranger with my children.

I have felt overwhelmed and exhausted some of the time but I think that is to be expected. I don't think that what your daughter sees as the "norm" is accuate. Maybe I am wrong.

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