QUESTION: Any advice....How do I not look at the ground everytime a guy says "Hi"?..... Very frustrating. I don't have a shy bone anywhere?

First, you might want to examine what you're saying to yourself when you're saying " Then you can tackle those "irrational thoughts". Without knowing what you're thinking... you might want cultivate a deep curiosity in what is going on inside this person's soul... and then understand that perhaps you can see it ("The eyes are a window to the soul. ").

You might also start to study the eyes and what they say about a person. Some people are visual and look up. Some people are auditory and look to the side.

Kinesthetic: down. What kind of person are you talking to? What are these all doing?

Getting you to put your "looking down" thoughts away and replace them with something else...

If it's true that you're not a shy person, then I'd say that you are looking at the ground when I guy says "" because you use it as a tool to generate more interest from the guy. Perhaps there's a part of you that believes guys like a little mystery, they need to work for it a little bit at least, that if you are yourself you'll scare them away. So you pretend to be shy to hedge your bets in case you decide to pursue them.

Looking down is associated with "checking in" with how a person feels. It can also be an old habit acquired from making sure they look good (that dissolved into a habit because you know you do). But my bet is that you are actually a confident person and you're used to being in control.

Taking on the posture of a shy person is more successful in the dating arena than a confident pose. At least in the circles you are used to hunting in. That's my guess.

If you're not "shy" but you grew up in a rougher area, looking down is designed to show submission or to avoid the impression that you are challenging them. Some women feel that by avoiding eye contact they are less likely to be victimized. If you truly feel this behavior limits you or interferes with your overall happiness and well being, it may be a habit you want to break.

Breaking a habit (often then referred to as a "bad" habit) requires: 1. Awareness - what am I doing that I don't like, how do I feel when I do it, what's the payoff for doing it, what payoff (aka emotional reward) would you rather have 2. Choice - making a decision that something must be done, choosing a proper replacement for the old behavior, committing to that change, visualizing how you'll look, feel and act with the new behavior on a daily basis at least 3.

New habit forming - repetitiveness, consciously choosing to act out the new habit when I know I'm in a situation where I used to do the old one, rewriting the engrams over a 3 week period so it becomes subconscious, often adopting a new posture or a new way of moving when doing the new action makes it easier to change.

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