Should a person feel obligated to hang out with a family member they have trouble with?

I don't care who your are, family or friend, I would never feel obligated to spend time with you or do anything with you if you have ever tried to hurt me. I understand that people fight and that people may say things that they don't mean, but no one is worth keeping around if they are just a nasty person. For me, there is no sense in maintaining a toxic relationship, even with someone who is closely related to me.It is just unhealthy, and in the end people only end up hurt.

I have family members with whom I have little to no contact with because they aren't good people. They have lied and stolen from a number of people, family members included, and I have no desire to associate with them. I am cordial when I see them at family events or when I'm out, but I would never call them and invite them out or socialize with them too much.

Maybe another way to phrase this question is "Does" a person feel obligated. . .. It sounds like you do, or you wouldn't be posting this questions.

Who made the rules? If you are an adult and you don't feel comfortable in this person's presence there is actually no obligation legal or otherwise to spend time around them. That said, you might find that other family members or the person in question, are giving you a hard time about your new adult stance on the situation.

Herein is the tension in modern life. People don't want to make stand unless they can be guaranteed of support. For lack of support people twist themselves in to so many needlessly stressful situations.

Forget about expecting support. Do what you want to do and results will be obvious.

I am a firm believer that you should not give your time to anybody that you do not want to, relative or not. While relatives can be important figures in our lives, we are not obligated to put up with being treated badly just because they are our kin. If being around someone makes you miserable then do not do it.

If you are forced to see this person because they attend functions where other family members are present, then it gets more difficult. It may help to have a talk with them about their hurtful behavior, or even have a relative do it for you if they will not listen to you. You could even write a letter if verbal communication is too difficult.

Just be as nice as possible while still being honest.

The natural tendency of the mind is to move toward bliss. Why go against your natural instincts unless it is to please someone else.

Never. As one person said, "Relatives are given to us by God. Thank God we can choose our friends."

Blood relations or legal ones do not a good relationship make. Life is too short to put up with stupid people. I wouldn't spend time with an abusive relative any more than I'd stay in a relationship where I was being beaten.

Some people do both of course (stay in abusive relationships) but not this person. And neither should you. Who we are related to is utterly random and is no guarantee that it's a good match.

I think that people use the excuse of blood relations to excuse far too much in this world. What makes a persons behavior okay just because you share common ancestors? If you go back far enough we all share the same ancestors so where do you draw the line?

I draw the line at "stupid", I don't care if you're my clone or my 3rd cousin twice removed on my step mothers side. Oh look, you're abusive! GTFO and good bye!

If you don't have any more relatives left after culling the dumb, you can always adopt if you need to.

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