Should I be ok with my fiance's ex staying in her apt for the weekend?She says there just friends.They text and talk, he said he missed her?

I hate to worry you, but I would not be ok with that. I think we need to draw the line about ex's, when we are in a committed relationship. I would not get mad with him.

I think it is your fiance's job to cut ties. If he was just a friend that might be different, but he is an ex. How would she feel if YOU had an ex stay with you?

How would she feel if you continued texting and calling an ex? You may need to sit with her and let her know this is not ok. My thoughts are "Treat others how I want to be treated."

I would not want my spouse talking with an ex, and I in return I will not keep a relationship with an ex. If you do not put yourself in compromising situations, you will have a better chance at being faithful to the one you DO love. Relationships and marriage are hard enough.

Just my thoughts! I wish you luck!

I don't think you want to come between the two of them as friends, because if she is friends with him then she will possibly resent you for forcing her to choose. On the other hand it isn't ok to be spending that much time with an ex, having them stay over and what not. You need to let her know how it feels on your end.

That its not that you don't trust her (although possibly that you don't trust him) but it doesn't make you feel good to have them so close when you know their history. Don't make out like he is a bad guy or that you don't like what he is doing, because its obvious that she still has some respect for him and won't necessarily like you bad mouthing him because of the situation. If you can make it clear how it feels to you and she understands then you can hopefully start to improve the situation.

I would say that its not a big deal to let him stay the night at her place if she was spending the night with you. Even if you can't be friends, try to treat him as one, but just don't let him get away with anything that could pull you and your fiancée apart. Sometimes you can get away with just saying how you feel about a situation and not assigning and good logic to it.

Simply put "I know I have nothing to worry about with you two, but I can't really help that it makes me feel bad when you spend so much time with him.

I tend to agree with most of the others on here. Once an ex-always an ex. I personally don’t feel she is over her ex yet.

I have an ex that used to be my fiancé over 30 years ago. I broke up with him but still stayed friends over the years. You might say “friends with benefits�.

I have been married twice since then but he has always been in my life. I know from experience that once you have been in a relationship with someone, it is very hard to make the relationship go backwards to just a friendship. Ask her how she would feel if you had your ex stay with you.

I bet if she honestly thought about it, she wouldn’t like it. I just think that if she may be putting herself in a situation where things could get out of hand easier than she thinks. Better to be safe than sorry.

:-).

I know someone who was on the same boat and did the opposite of what I would do. He gave the keys to his house to his girlfriend's ex and asked her to use condoms should she decide to relive the past. The proud man's concern was simply to avoid sexually transmitted diseases, but this guy has had several broken marriages.

Sorry if this breaks your heart, but I think it's healthy to face reality. Allow me to echo s "Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship."

Now I don't even know who Oscar Wilde is, but I don't think this idea of his fits well in divorce loving countries.

With all due respect, I think that you should reconsider the entire relationship. Relationships have to be built on mutual trust and respect. You may trust each other, and that’s a great start.

However, if she is maintaining this close friendship with her ex, then she is not being respectful of you. You’re engaged, so marriage would be your ultimate goal. It is difficult enough for couples to make marriage work without having someone’s ex spending the night (you don’t think their friendship will change just because you are married, do you?) This sounds like the type of situation that would land you on Maury or Dr.Phil.

Open yourself up to the unfortunate possibility that this is not the right woman for you. But first, before throwing the baby out with the bath water, make sure that you explain to your fiance, in no uncertain terms, exactly how her behavior makes you feel.To ensure that I have answered all your questions, let me end by saying yes, it is awkward to stay in the same apartment with an ex; and yes, you should be threatened by his not-so-hidden agenda.

It sounds to me like she's not over him yet. And if they do something do you think they would tell you. Why are they still texting eachother.

You are being played and if you are her significant other why does she need him to talk to and tell her secrets and feelings. You need to tell her to make a choice if she's your fiance and if she has to think for a minute tell her to back off to see where your relationship is going. I would tell him outright go get a room and leave her alone but this is really her job.Do they call youy lollipop because it sounds like your a s..k.r.

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