Should I feel like a third wheel when my son and daughter-in-law invite me to go places with them?

A month ago I went with them to my d-i-l 's grandmothers birthday and last night she invited me to go to her parents with them tonight to celebrate Thanksgiving(we will have Thanksgiving at my house Thurs). I don't feel comfortable doing this although she said "When I married your son our two families became one and you are now my family" What do you think? Would you go?

Asked by feisty_sugar 38 months ago Similar questions: feel wheel son daughter in law invite places Society > Holidays.

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I would! I discovered a long time ago that my feelings belong to me and nobody can fix them but me. SO, when I get invited anywhere for anything by anybody, the only quantifier in my decision-making process is "do I want do to this?"

Usually, I want to go, so I do. I've been to my son-in-law's grandmother's house for dinner so many times I can't count them, I've stayed at his mother's house when my daughter (his wife) had to have emergency surgery in New Orleans. I've also been to his other grandmother's house in upstate MS; I did Easter with his great-aunt's family in 2007.

I've had a wonderful time each time I've been anywhere with my daughter's husband's family. I also did Thanksgiving in 2006 with a friend's family. Feisty, if you want to go, then go and let yourself have a blast.

I'm sure that if your son's wife didn't want you there, she'd have said so. Her grandmother probably likes you a lot and is glad to have you. That's the way Danny's grandmother is.

She figures I'm family, too. Happy Thanksgiving! Take a casserole or bottle of wine, or something gooey to eat for dessert and have a good time..

Go and enjoy it................. If she did not like you she would not invite you. You are lucky that your daughter-in-law is inclusive. My daughter is like that not only with the family but any friend that she feels could use a "substitute" family.My best friend and my kid's Godmother does Thanksgiving for the past 28 years.

My daughter got married in 2005 and she has lovely in-laws. All of a sudden the holidays became a problem because of too many invitations. We all got together and focused how to handle them: Daughter and mother-in-law have the same day for a birthday.

Mother-in-law does the party one year and daughter the next year alternating. It's a pizza and salad party and cake. Simple so is not too much work.

Godmother invited daughter's in-laws to join us for Thanksgiving so they don't have two parties in one day. We all participate bringing stuff.It's lovely. We even car pool so to save on gas and parking spots.

X-mas eve: daughter does it at her house, everybody is invited and each one brings a dish except Turkey (mother-in-law does that) and a Honey Ham (I bring that). The men are resposible for the drinks, sodas and coffees. When my Mom died and we were invited to any party I was happy if my friends would say: Bring your Dad, too.

He loved being included although he did not expect it. He would have been happy staying home and walking the dog, too. Usually the person, like you, that feels funny about it, it's a sensitive person that does not want to cause any inconvenience.

It makes sense for you to allow them to have all loved ones around and be included. Enjoy your extended family.

Third wheel I don't think you'd be a third wheel from what your daughter-in-law said. She sounds so sweet and it sounds like she really wants to include you in family events! I would go on Thanksgiving.

You will be with other people and hopefully have some good food and enjoy the day. I hope my future daughter-in-law will feel that way about me. My youngest is engaged and getting married next year.

They don't come here that often as we've got cats and she's allergic to them. I've learned that she is a very thoughtful, kind and considerate person. The "kids" are already looking for a house because her apartment lease end about the time they get married.So, maybe we can get together more often.

I'm even getting hugs out of her now. She's very shy and just getting to know us and warming up nicely! Go and have a good time!

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I think it's great feisty... I don't understand the third wheel, unless they made you feel that way. It's not often that in laws, DIL, SIL any in laws get along so well, in fact seldom heard of. When it comes to immediate family and grandparents it's alright to invite one another.It sounds like you have a fantastic DIL ( drop IL ) Daughter that thinks highly of you or she would not have said that, there are not many that get along.

I am married till I get home my Mom loves my wife like a daughter I no longer exist to a point. My Mom always said she was happier with boys, that girls were always trouble, well I think pretty hard on that these days, I think she would have loved a URL2 matter she has three DIL's now, us boys just stand in the shadows and watch...:@) You are by their marriage one large family and she's right. You can turn down other parties for her Family members I think it would be a bit much to expect attending for all her family members and likewise, the parents and grandparents I think is a must after all you are the heads of the families and honored in both kids eyes!

Yes I would go this year only because you were invited by your DIL, two dinners back to back is probably a bit much but it's good for family relations. You can make arrangements for every other year that way the kids can enjoy both families and neither family is without their kid for the Holidays! Sources: PC 123 .

1 Go forth in all happiness.......It is an honor from your daughter-in-law that is openly showing you as she can: That she cares and loves you, and desires you be an active part of her life with your son!Blessings........Annlee .

Go forth in all happiness.......It is an honor from your daughter-in-law that is openly showing you as she can: That she cares and loves you, and desires you be an active part of her life with your son!Blessings........Annlee.

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