Should you send thank you cards for gifts opened at a child's birthday party?

While thank you cards seem to be going out of style, I think they are a nice gesture that should not die. Perhaps they can be replaced with the thank you email or ecard (to be more environmentally friendly), but I think that introducing children to the act of thanking their friends for gifts is a positive thing. Having the children make/choose and send the cards themselves is ideal here.

They can get creative and also learn manners and social skills that will stay with them for their entire lives. So while I wouldn't call it rude not to send cards, per se, I think it is an excellent idea to send them and involve the kids.

No need to send a card just for saying thank you ... a simple words and saying thank you to those who attend a birthday patry is enough...and one more thing before the party end why don't you give some token to your visitors as a sign or symbol for saying thank you to them for spending their time to attend party... I think thats enough to say thank you..

Although my wife never sent cards we found it easier to send the guests home with party favors/gift basket as a way of saying thank you.

I more or less agree with @bunnyphuphu on this one. There is no reason to send an elaborate thank you most of the time. It certainly wouldn’t be rude not to send a card, but not to acknowledge it at all is another thing.

Other adults have spent their money on your child after all and your child is the main benefactor. I think that the child should thank each person at the party as the presents are opened, then again individually as they leave (even if it’s just “thanks a lot for that present! €?.

Now, sometimes you’ll have one friend of family that really goes out of their way or find something extra special for your child. If this is the case, or it’s obvious a significant amount of money was spent in relation to the value of the gifts from the other families, I think a special note or call would be very appropriate and show that you and thankful for their extra work, money, or thoughtfulness. I know that I wouldn’t be upset if I didn’t receive a thank you card, but to receive no thank you or acknowledgment at all for buying another person’s child a present would make me a little annoyed.

Good question @gno. No, it would not be rude not to send thank you cards in this situation. For younger children's party's, where adults are typically present as gifts are opened, I'd say verbal "thank you's" to the children and parents are sufficient but thank you cards are always very acceptable.

However, as children get older (8 or so) sending hand written thank you cards to each gift giver is a very polite gesture. Formal rules of etiquette, according to Emily Post, do not require thank you notes in this situation, but I think it's a nice touch. Expressing verbal "thank you's" at the party when opening the gifts and when guests leave is correct and polite too.

Growing up, I received a box or two of blank thank you cards on my birthday and other holidays for this purpose. Now, my kids do too. They know that part of receiving gifts is thanking people with thoughtful thank you cards.

We don't have many kids birthday parties, but for the few we've had we sent short notes to each person. We also sent along a fun photo of the group of children who attended the party as part of the thank you note.

For a birthday party, I think a verbal 'Thank You' is perfectly fine. If the adults are there when the presents are being opened you can thank them then, or talk to them shortly after. This is one occasion where acknowledgement is the key... not a fancy official card in the mail.

If the party is for slightly older kids and the parents just show up near the end or come by to pick them up... you can thank them accordingly. If some kids came together, and there were some presents with parents MIA, I think I quick phone call to say thank you and give a little recap on the event is great. As long as you play it safe and don't invite any LOLcats... you should have a great party!

I more or less agree with @bunnyphuphu on this one. There is no reason to send an elaborate thank you most of the time. It certainly wouldn’t be rude not to send a card, but not to acknowledge it at all is another thing.

Other adults have spent their money on your child after all and your child is the main benefactor. I think that the child should thank each person at the party as the presents are opened, then again individually as they leave (even if it’s just “thanks a lot for that present! ”.

Now, sometimes you’ll have one friend of family that really goes out of their way or find something extra special for your child. If this is the case, or it’s obvious a significant amount of money was spent in relation to the value of the gifts from the other families, I think a special note or call would be very appropriate and show that you and thankful for their extra work, money, or thoughtfulness. I know that I wouldn’t be upset if I didn’t receive a thank you card, but to receive no thank you or acknowledgment at all for buying another person’s child a present would make me a little annoyed.

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