Still have a long list, help narrow down from the revised list?

Oh, my! Well, don't divorce unless he is cheating on you or abusive or alcoholic refusing treatment. Because you love him and you have a child who needs both of you.

The life of a single Mom is hell. You cannot change him, so change your responses since whatever you are doing doesn't work. Nagging and hinting do not work.

Things to think about: Shower him with love: Always kiss him hello, goodbye, and goodnight. Pamper him: Ask what you can do to help him Use you charm: Very sweetly ask for what you want "Darling, could we please adjust our schedule a bit to include a family night, date night, and invite friends over night?" Cook his favorite foods.

Clothes in the living room: Put a hall tree or extra hangers closeby and say "Sweetheart, would you please hang up your clothes today because your Mom is coming by." Social pressure: invite his Mom & your family, friends, and minister over so they can see what he is doing. One of them is likely to say "husband's name, why are your clothes in the living room?"

If he says he hates everybody. Tell him everybody loves him. Be cheerful Don't argue.

The fastest way to end an argument is to agree..."yes, you're right" and "yes, I was late." About talking: Men usually don't like to talk as much as we women do so talk a lot to your Mom and siblings and girlfriends to fill some of that need. And ask him some open-ended questions on matters that don't much matter what his answer is like " What do you think about such and such?

Some of your concerns are quite valid, and I've seen the phenomenon of "I'm married, so I can let myself go" before (though that seems to be something men AND women do). I would suggest counselling...

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