Trophy wife: hate them or want to be one?

Maybe you could compromise. There are occasions when you should make an effort, and if you can be seen to do that when going out for the evening, that would make a big difference. I don't know why your husband never made his preferences clear before you married, you'll have to ask him.

But you don't need to go over the top with dressing for an evening out. A nice pair of shoes or boots that's still comfortable and easy to walk in, with a smart skirt or pair of smart trousers, with a blouse/top and jacket, and a little make-up, should do the trick. Or, if that sounds a bit much, then go for smart casual - smart jeans or cords, with a roll-top jumper or checked shirt, and leather jacket (but not a biker's jacket!); you can get away with minimal or no make-up with that, and a simple hairstyle.

Even if it's not quite what your husband would like, if he can see you're making an effort, he'll be glad, and should compliment you on it. Who knows? You may even find your self esteem taking a boost.

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