VIRGIN GIRLs who date guys n don't tell'em she will not have sex before marriage are using him for free lunch?

Hi TRS Congratulations on keeping yourself pure for marriage! The next time the subject of sex comes up, then mention that you're a virgin and want to remain one until your wedding night. His reaction will tell you about his character (i.e.

, if he tries to debate or insult your values... then he's a loser). Meanwhile, pondering the reasons why you want to remain a virgin will help you to explain "why" if anybody asks you... such as this guy. So, following is a discussion of sex and virginity.

Sex is like a fine pearl... i.e. , it is valuable and needs to be treated with care and respect. Just like a pearl should never be trampled into the mud by pigs, you should never give your body to a horny teenage guy or anyone else who doesn't love and respect you.

The typical arguments of "I think I'm ready" or "I'm horny" or "He's horny" or "We love each other" or "Everyone else is doing it" or "I don't have a Dad and I'm hungry for male attention" are not reliable measurements of being emotionally prepared for sex. Pre-marital sex is a bad idea for young ladies... in my humble opinion. Why?

- Because there are numerous other emotional and moral issues that far outweigh a few minutes of pleasure or satisfying your curiosity or trying to please a selfish & horny BF... such as love, loyalty, honesty, maturity, commitment, dignity, responsibility, mutual respect, and marriage. If a young girl does not handle her virginity properly... some of the negative feelings and issues might include shame, sneaking around, guilt, abuse, being taken advantage of by a smooth player, an unwanted pregnancy, catching an STD, and heartbreak. Being abandoned by a guy after her virginity is taken... by a guy who lied and claimed that he loved her... would not be a positive experience for any young lady.

Assuming that a teenage lady loses her virginity early, there are often serious emotional repercussions. The circumstances of an early "First Time" can have a lasting effect of how the rest of her life will unfold. Why?

- Because even if a young lady believes that she and her BF are in love... she usually subconsciously knows that odds are probably 99% against him ultimately becoming her husband... and finds out for certain when they break up. - Because knowing that her parents probably still think that she's a virgin, and how hurt and ashamed they would feel if they knew the truth... especially her Dad if she has one. - Because she probably has a fear of getting pregnant (there is no such thing as "safe sex").

- Because her childhood innocence is officially gone forever... with no vows, no fanfare, no formal planning, no celebrations, no announcements, no wedding dress, no bridesmaids, no romantic hotel suite, no "just married" signs, no approval from her family, no congratulations from his family, no diamond ring for her, no gold wedding band for him, no blessings from a church pastor... and no driving off on her honeymoon into a "new life" with a loving and proud husband. - Because losing her virginity based on nothing except the feeling "Gee, I loved him and thought I was ready..." often makes her realize that feelings are frequently not the best foundation for making wise decisions. - Because afterwards, she will probably wish that her BF was stronger or smarter or less horny, and would have suggested to her " maybe we shouldn't do this right now..." - Because her BF will be an unconvicted felon if she's under the legal age of consent (charge = statutory rape).

This guy is married. I can 100% guarantee it. If you only live an hour away, have been texting him about sex for 6 months and have NEVER met him....he's married.

Find someone new.

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