You are hormonal and emotional, she is emotional. Of course, there will be hurt feelings and feelings of annoyance. It is very common for both mom and grandmom to feel some possessiveness.
You need to be firm with. If you say, NO mom, mean it. Next time, don't let her take her.
Just say, "Mom, I am trying to feed her. You can't take her right now. I will let you know when you can hold her".
Another option, is get your mom doing MORE involved, but in different way. " mom could you go pick up some diapers?" - gains you 30 minutes alone. " mom could you wash the baby's clothes" - gains you more time.
As an added, bonus, it lets her feel involved. And the other option, it do the "compliment and complain". Which is essentially, saying "Mom, I appreciate your help so much.
I just need a little space for myself and baby because I am very hormonal and emotional lately.".
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