What do you do when you have a really annoying friend that doesn't get that you don't want to be their friend anymore?

This girl lives in my apartment complex. Her boyfriend is friends with my husband. And she is friends with my other friend in the apartment complex.

I know it is a loaded question, but I really need help! I can't stand her! She is selfish and never calls me unless she needs a favor (like a ride to work or a cig) and I don't want to hurt her feelings because she really puts on a good sweet girl act.

What would you do? I need advice! Asked by Melia 50 months ago Similar questions: annoying friend anymore Lifestyle > Relationships.

Not a good place to be in. You must either be truthful with her or put up with her. Those are two polar opposite approaches.In view of the fact that your husband is her husband's friend, you may have to put up with her.

However, it is your choice to say no if she calls for a ride, etc. Have an answer or excuse ready for the next time she calls. The good news - you probably won't always live close to her in the apartments! .

Be tactfully direct, and as in all things (or most things) you have a choice. Exercise that choice... if someone is making you nuts! I did this recently with a guy I know AND I had to be REALLY direct with him.

He finally gets it that I mean business and that his behavior was not cutting it. He was coming into my work, hoovering, asking stupid questions, when I know full well what he wants. He's not with his lasy anymore and he thinks he can just get something started with me because he has an attraction.

He keeps asking to go places together and his intentions are as clear as the nose on his face. I don't trust him and this is NOT happening. I've had other people like this in my life over the years and I've been the good guy when it didn't feel right and ended up on the losing end.

I never want to hurt anyone's feelings if I can avoid it, but when you're not into someone, you're not into them. I would put it right out there about her never calling unless she needs a favor. If she goes off the deep end, nothing lost and you have a better idea who you're dealing with.

Sounds like you may already have her number. I have no use for people who are users. Friendship is about trust and having faith that our friends care about our well being and mean us no harm.

I don't have time for people who place so little value on true friendship. Follow your gut. Intuition is instilled in us for a reason.

And simply put, we don't have to like everyone. It doesn't mean be unkind, it means protecting our boundaries with such people. Maybe it's because I'm older now and not willing to settle like I have so many times in the past.My time is valuable and I consider myself a good friend, but I won't be used anymore.

I hope this helps. It's just one person's opinion..

I had a simmilary situation.... It's hard to ignore someone when your significant other is friends with their significant other but if at all possible I would try to ignore her. Most people get the hint after a while sorry to say but it took my unwanted friend almost a year. Maybe your husband can only hang out with her boyfriend when you two ladies don't have to be around.

Don't answer the phone. I hope eventually she stops calling. Tell her your busy with other friends and don't have the time for her.

Best of luck.

Tough situation - I think sticking up for yourself is the best response I've been in similar situations before, and there isn't a very easy answer. Obviously you want to remain on polite terms with her, since you'll be seeing her from time to time and since your husband and her boyfriend hang out. At the same time, you need to stick up for your own feelings and not feel like you're letting her take advantage of your friendship - or just annoying the heck out of you!

I think the best situation is just to politely avoid her when she's being particularly annoying. If you're "busy" whenever she tries to impose upon you, she might start to get the idea that you don't appreciate her trying to take advantage of your friendship. Even if she doesn't get the hint, you aren't letting her impose anyway, so you save yourself a lot of frustration and annoyance.

If you're really lucky, you might find out that in small doses, she's not nearly as bad. She might also decide that since you avoid her when she's being a pain, she'll try being nice for a while and see how that goes. Stranger things have happened.

Good luck! .

Know what it's like I have often times been stuck in the middle between two friends or had one really annoying friend that I didn't like. A way to get rid of her is to completely ignore her. Without saying hi or just looking the other way, she may get the idea that you're mad, or don't feel like talking.

Or you could just tell her how you feel. Maybe by talking to her, she'll listen to what you have to say. But if after talking to her and it still doesn't work, and you really can't stand her, I would just completely ignore her.

If she asks for a favor, just say you're sorry, but find someone else to help you. If the only time she talks to you, is when she needs something, she is only using you. Don't let her take advantage of you.

Don't be too nice. Sometimes it's better to be mean (you know what I mean). I was always one of those people that always had to please others, but you also have to please yourself.

Sometimes it's the ones who act nice are really the mean ones. They know if they act sweet, they have a better chance of getting what they want. Though this isn't always the case, but it can be sometimes.

Sources: My experiences .

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I had a friend for over twenty years. She got married don't hear from her anymore.

Everything happens for a reason. ' A friend always says this to me about my being unemployed and I find it annoying.

I have a friend who is having an affair with a married man and it angers me. I don't like her anymore. Is that wrong?

I'd like to know which commercials you think are so annoying.

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