What is the difference between mental abuse and normal arguing and anger?

I'm sorry to hear that you have had such a difficult time with your family, it sounds as though you have made the only decision possible to achieve happiness in your own life. I agree that there is a gray area, but the difference is that with normal arguments and anger, it doesn't usually involve one person insulting, bullying, belittling, or threatening the other in some way. It is possible to have a heated difference of opinion and still have respect for each other.

If one person is too scared of the consequences to be able to even voice an opinion on some issue or disagree with the other, then there is mental abuse involved. Once this situation has become the norm to the abuser and the abused, there is rarely any way of saving that relationship, whether it involves husband and wife, mother and daughter or anyone else. The other concern is that mental abuse is only one step away from physical abuse.

For me mental abuse has everything to do with someone putting you down , calling you names and letting you know that you really are no good for anything. Therefore making you feel worthless. Arguing means simply that the two of you disagree upon something , that you have two diferent opinions.

Anger is something completely different it means when you are very upset over something or someone. flickr.com/photos/clairebears_photograph... flickr.com/photos/89146068@N00/87529743/ flickr.com/photos/liberato/2915235479.

When people mention mental abuse, they are usually referring to verbal or psychological abuse. Psychological abuse occurs when a person tries to harm the mental stability of an individual. This can manifest in many ways.

The abuser can attempt to isolate the person from friends and family, threaten to physically hurt them or play psychological games with the victim. Verbal abuse is any speech that is said with the intention to hurt the other person such as namecalling or picking at flaws. People who are mentally abused suffer both physical and mental effects.

They are more likely to have stress related health problems and do poorly at school/work. Beyond that, some turn to drugs or alcohol to numb the feeling of inadequacy created by the abuser's negative environment. Ultimately, some victims of abuse begin to consider suicide as a way out of the situation.It would seem that the difference between normal arguing and mental abuse depends on intent and frequency.

There is a big difference between having a small spat every once in a while and someone calling their spouse or child a vicious name everyday. Likewise, a person may say something mean during a fight once. Then, he never says it again because he sees the negative effect.

However, an abuser will continue to use words that hurt the victim.

I think the only gray area is in denial as no one wants to walk away from a loved one. Normal arguing deals with an issue. Mental abuse is attacking someone on a personal level.

When you walk away from an argument are you just mad or personally frustrated and have you been attacked on a personal level. Do you feel like you lost an argument or a piece of yourself. Do you feel like the person got the best of you or took a piece of you.

If in any instance it is the latter you need to work things out. This is like cheating if they get away with it once it only gets worse and it leads to physical abuse.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.