What would you do if your friend's daughter saw your nephew(17y.o) drunk at a party & left with someone possibly drunk?

What would you do if your friend's daughter saw your nephew(17y. O) drunk at a party & left with someone possibly drunk? I told my sister and my brother-in-law, just as a FYI and that I was concerned.

They wanted names of who told me. I told them that is not the point and that this person is very credible and not to mention my name to my nephew. I also told them, had I kept this information from them, god forbid something were to happen, I would feel the guilt.

Well my nephew some how knows it was me and now I feel the distance from both. I am now the bad person for sharing this information. The reason why I didn't speak directly to my nephew when I heard this was because he is underage.

Had he been of age, I would have spoken directly to him. I feel very sad and keep retracing my steps. I believe I did the right thing, like I said I shared the information it was up to them to do the research.

Like I told my sister, I hope you have the guts to tell me when my kid is in danger. Asked by SacMom 44 months ago Similar Questions: friend's daughter nephew 17y drunk party left possibly Recent Questions About: friend's daughter nephew 17y drunk party left possibly Family > Parenting.

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You absolutely did the right thing. You had no need to reveal your "source", so to speak, and your sister and brother-in-law should not have revealed their "source", i.e. You.

This is the kind of thing that parents owe no explanation to their kids about. For one thing, you might be in a position to provide valuable information to them again. I'm not saying purposely spy or solicit information on your nephew, but I'm like you, as a parent I'd want to know.

Now your sister and her hubby have eliminated any important information you might come across. I, like you, did not have a perfect child. She, as a teen, lied, snuck out of the house, drank, smoked pot, etc. When I found out about incidents I NEVER questioned the source.

The source never had a reason to lie; my daughter had plenty of motive to lie. I also NEVER revealed my source. It was none of my daughter's business.

She was caught doing something wrong/illegal/against the rules/whatever. I had no need to explain myself to her. Your sister and her husband sound like they feel almost apologetic for calling their son out on this and want to "blame" you for it.

Well, they have no cahoonas. The adults are all supposed to be on the same side. I would have definitely assumed that that would mean being on the side against underage drinking and drinking and driving at any age.

If these parents take their son's life seriously, they should have treated this a lot more seriously and respected and THANKED you for telling them, no matter how unpleasant the news. If he is driving under the influence, or with someone who is, he may be killed, maimed for life, kill someone else, maim someone else for life, etc. The best case scenario is that he will be caught and may lose his license for a certain length of time which will seriously impact his lifestyle - dating, working, etc. May God bless him and he learn his lesson from a minor incident where no one is harmed. You have done the best you can.

You did the right thing, make no mistake about it. Your sister and her husband apparently want to stick their heads in the sand. Sources: personal experience and opinion; amazon.com anniemdaffodils's Recommendations How to Cope With a Teenage Drinker: Changing Adolescent Alcohol Abuse (Master Work Series) Amazon List Price: $35.00 Used from: $9.95 This is the kind of thing your sister and brother-in-law should perhaps be reading....but you've done your best.

It doesn't sound like they'd welcome any helpful information at this point; maybe in the future.

You did the right thing. I would hope someone like you would tell me if my kids had gotten themselves in potential danger. Especially being underage.

I wouldn't worry about the kid. He's mad because he got caught. I'm certain he'll get over it.

And if not, feel good about yourself knowing you did the right thing and maybe next time he'll watch his step. You are definetely not the bad person in this situation. You're a Godend.

Don't punish yourself for telling his parents. You may well have saved his life. I admire your guts.

Most people, unfortunately,. Look the other way. The main thing is he's safe and that's really all that counts.

I hope they were smart and strong to reprimand him. You did your part, they should have given you a crown. I hope his parents are as big and level headed as you are.

Sources: The right thing .

You did the RIGHT THING! You did the right thing and now you are done. I hope that these people have the intelligence to somehow see what you did was a loving, caring gesture.

They sound defensive and if that is the case, wow, that's really sad and foolish. I wish you the best and hope this works out for you.

1 Sounds like a case of "shoot the messenger. " Parent's don't like to be told when their kids are being irresponsible, but if they are mature and have their kid's best interests at heart, they should try to get over that and deal with their son appropriately. Telling him you spoke to them was poor judgement.

I think you did the right thing, for what it's worth. I had a really good friend in college who was almost killed by a drunk driver. She was in the hospital for quite a long time, and suffered damage to her short-term memory.

She had to leave school and still needs to use a can when walking. She was only 20 when this happened to her. I'll never forget visiting her in the hospital.

Drunk driving is one of those things that always makes me mad--good for you for taking the risk of angering people to hopefully stop this behavior. Hopefully in time they will appreciate it.

Sounds like a case of "shoot the messenger. " Parent's don't like to be told when their kids are being irresponsible, but if they are mature and have their kid's best interests at heart, they should try to get over that and deal with their son appropriately. Telling him you spoke to them was poor judgement.

I think you did the right thing, for what it's worth. I had a really good friend in college who was almost killed by a drunk driver. She was in the hospital for quite a long time, and suffered damage to her short-term memory.

She had to leave school and still needs to use a can when walking. She was only 20 when this happened to her. I'll never forget visiting her in the hospital.

Drunk driving is one of those things that always makes me mad--good for you for taking the risk of angering people to hopefully stop this behavior. Hopefully in time they will appreciate it.

2 thank you for having the guts most would not. You may in the future have saved someone though they atre mad now .

Thank you for having the guts most would not. You may in the future have saved someone though they atre mad now.

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