Let me start by saying you r such a strong girl... when telling your parents they NEED to know that you were raped. U also need to turn your ex in (meaning tell the police) no one will judge u, being raped is a serious thing and take it from someone like me.. it will haunt you for the rest of your life if you don't tell anyone. No one will think anything bad of u.. in fact they will end up thinking your ex is an asshole, just like you know he is.
Shawn is your friend and bf for a reason, he will understand, he knows what your ex has done to u, and he will still love u. He might hate your ex, but trust me this is not your fault and he will still love u. Being a young mother is hard, but it also shows you a blessing in disguise... adoption is probably the best option for you and your child.. I know it seems hard to hear.
It is hard to go through high school and college with a child.. so be a guardian angel and bless someone else with this wonderful creation you brought into the world. Justice need to be served so take the following steps to heart. 1.
Tell your parents you were raped they will understand that it is impossible for a girl your size to hold off a boy that size. 2. Tell the police, (u might be scared but it is the BEST advice that I can give u, the police will not judge u, they will take it very seriously and go after the scumbag of an ex that you had.
3. Tell shawn, he will understand and if he doesn't then clearly he doesn't love you for being an honest, loving, strong girl which seems like they are all the reason he loves you in the first place. 4.
Don't speak to your ex. Let the police handle this (it will save you a lot of problems).. and lastly I want to let you know that this is extremly similar to my situation I was 16 years old and went to a college party this guy took advantage of me and I never saw him again I told my parents, went to the police (they locked him up), and put the child up for adoption several years later I look back and am proud of myself for standing up because trust me when I say I didn't think I had it in me... you will be fine, keep your head up and remember to breath.. "you are more beautiful than you think, more talented than you know, and more loved than you can imagine." this is my favorite quote and everytime I wanted to cry I just repeated to myself and eventually I believed it and I can proudly say that I am happy with the decisions I made regarding my past.
Wow. I'd talk to your boyfriend first. Yeah, I know it'll be hard, but he has to know.
He knows about your situation and what's happened to you. He's supported you through everything so far. He knows everything that happened with your ex, right?
If he does, it'll still be hard, very hard, but it won't be bringing up anything he doesn't already know. He'll probably be worried sick, and maybe hurt, too, but if he's supported you through everything, I can bet he'll support you though this, too. He might even be able to help you talk to your parents about it, as you'll need to.
And the police. You need to tell the police everything that you know. Your ex is a really bad guy.
A REALLY bad guy. He'll do it again to another girl just like you if you don't find a way to stop him. It might give you some more closure, too.
Beyond telling your boyfriend first, you need to get help. You're obviously having some serious, serious issues with your life right now. I'll admit it; you're situation sucks.
It sucks bad. That doesn't mean you should want to die. If you're hurting yourself, or seriously thinking about it, you need to talk to some people that you trust.
Whether it be your boyfriend, a teacher, your parents, anyone, you need help to fix what this bad guy did to you. It's not right. Don't tell your ex.
Report him to the police. Your ex has hurt you far too much for you to deal with him like that. Talk to your parents and see what you can do about getting him put away from society.
Talk to your boyfriend about it. Try and get your emotions together. You can make the situation better.
You have a guy that has supported you through everything, and knows what happened to you. He'll be supportive of anything that you decide to do. You just need to open up to him and let him know what's going on.
Figure out what to do about your situation together. It's always better to have a partner in a bad situation. He can help you.
You need it so badly. Please don't hurt yourself. You'll only hurt those around you.
Think about your parents, your boyfriend, your friends, and the rest of your family. You can do so much more good by going to the police about this guy.
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